Become Insensitive To Haters

hater

What’s up ? This is THE stephane ANDRE !!! I watched an Olivier Roland’s video  and I learned some good stuff.

To be successful, it’s really necessary to have the ability to ignore haters, especially on internet.

Beginners are unaware of the emotional impact that haters can create and it can also scare people who want to start their company online. When you develop your internet presence, avoid haters is impossible.

Hater

A hater is a person who feels the irresistible urge to send you a message by email, comment or tweet to tell you :

  • You’re the stupidest and ugliest person in the world

  • Your content is the most insignificant thing since the creation of the planet earth

  • That he/she hopes that you don’t make children to not spread the evil on the planet earth and that you die quickly

These 3 things are what say haters in general.

The truth is, you can’t avoid that. Select one of your favorite artists, athletes or actors, check out one of his/her video on Youtube and read the comments. You can see the quality’s level of comments and it makes people lose faith in humanity. And it’s not just haters, there are also people who tell a lot of bullshit and insult each other.

A hater is a person who is bored and has no purpose in life, so that person is trying to create trouble in your community and psychologically impact you in a negative way. Fortunately on social media, it’s possible to ban haters.

Don’t be afraid

don't be afraid

I know many people who want to create a blog, a podcast or a Youtube channel but they’re afraid of having a bad buzz. I know a medical student who wants to create something to help students who are in 1st year of medical school but he still doesn’t do anything. This is the same situation as people who never drive because they are afraid of an accident or people who never take a plane.

It’s important to understand :

  • It’s extremely unlikely

  • Even if you have a bad buzz, you’ll survive

  • In any case, you will build a community that will support you.

When you look at the biggest bad buzz in history, it’s rare to see that the sales falls caused the bankruptcy of the company (or maybe you know a case I don’t know). Sometimes there are people who have been a bit traumatized by a bad buzz but in the majority of cases, there is little damage.

The best revenge you can have for haters is to have a good life. To be afraid of the haters that make you afraid to act, that you’re paralyzing, it’s showing to the world that it’s you who are leaving intimidated by something that is very unlikely to happen.

Keyboard warrior

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Haters are also called « Keyboard warrior » because generally haters allow themselves to make type of criticism about people on internet but they are unable to do in real life, face to face. They’re comfortable behind their keyboard because they suffer no consequence.

So don’t be intimidated by the keyboard warriors and what I recommend you to do, it’s to keep a bottle of champagne to celebrate your first hater. It’s important to know that having haters is a necessary step in your success. Having your first hater is a sign that you’re on the right track because you’re disturbing someone.

keyboard warrior

Constructive criticism

Among this ton of negative comments (95%), there are also critics who can help you improve. To identify these critics, you must ask yourself this question : « What is the intention of this criticism ? Do I feel that the person wants to help me ? ».

If you feel that the criticism of the person is to help you, you can analyze the criticism and see if you can do something that interest you. If not, you can ban the person. Unfortunately, you’ll see that the majority of critics are not made to help you.

Remember that about haters :

  1. They’re inevitable

  2. They’re a sign of your success. Everyone has haters, even the people you admire the most

  3. They’re keyboard warriors. They say things that he/she doesn’t allow himself/herself to say in real life, face to face.

  4. Keep a bottle of champagne for the day you’ll have yor first hater

  5. To identify constructive criticism, ask yourself this question : « Is there a positive intention in this criticism to improve myself ? ».

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-Steph

Boost Your Charisma

charisma barack obama

What’s up ? This is THE stephane ANDRE ! I watched an Olivier Roland’s video  and I learned some good stuff.

To increase my charisma, I discovered a completely counterintuitive trick. This trick is a state of mind. This is a trick that Seth Godin shares in his book « Tribes » . In this book Seth Godin explains the importance of internet. Internet isn’t just about doing business with customers/prospects, but it’s a real tool for building a tribe or community.

The principles for building a tribe or community with internet are to share quality content and to clearly explain your values to bring together people who share the same values as you. Seth Godin says something very interesting about charisma, he says that most people think that yow have to have charisma to get the idea when it’s the opposite. The simple fact of having the idea gives charisma. It’s deep right ?

In everyday life

 

everyday

 

I’m sure you’ve seen this situation :

  • There is a person who loses consciousness on the sidewalk Quickly a person must take responsibility for the idea of caring for the person who has lost consciousness

  • There is a car accident. Quickly a person must take responsibility for the idea of dealing with traffic to secure the area.

In situation where there is no designated leader, a person must take the initiative, without permission, to take responsibility for the idea of managing the situation.

As you can see, it does give charisma to this person and the others will naturally accept him/her as a leader and listen his/her orders, until the situation returns to normal.

The question, I’m asking you is : « In the project that is important to you, could you take responsibility for the idea of taking care of your tribe or community that shares the same values as you and to do evolve the project ? ». Tell me your answer in the comments section.

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