Avoid Being Workaholic

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What’s up ? This is THE stephane ANDRE !!! I watched an Olivier Roland’s video and I learned some good stuff.

There is a trick to avoid being a workaholic that the majority of entrepreneurs don’t do. It’s to have a productive activity outside of work (because the company is based on a passion). If you’re not sure what a productive activity is, you can read this article I wrote. Click here ].

A lot of entrepreneurs are workaholics, which means that they’re work addicts. It’s not really a bad behavior, especially in the early years of the company because there are many new things to learn and few employees. But in the long term, it can block you to achieve the success you should have.

Workaholic

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When I say « work addict », I don’t mean that a person is an addict like with cocaine, heroine, crystale methamphetamine, etc. We, human beings, are afraid of emptiness. This is very well explained in the Tim Ferriss book « 4-hour Workweek » . For example, you become more and more efficient using the 20/80 method (Pareto’s law) and you manage to earn 2 hours of free time per week. Now, what are you going to do with these 2 hours of free time ? Are you going to sit and count the insects ? No ! And as today more and more entrepreneurs have a laptop, they’ll continue to work on the laptop.

The problem of working during free time are :

  • Too much nose to the grindstone and do things that aren’t really useful. It prevents you from having peace of mind, serenity, being creative, decompressing, taking a step back, etc.
  • Work to work. For many people, consciously or unconsciously, if they don’t work, they’ll be bored. So they’ll do things that aren’t really useful to be busy. We can call it « intelligent procrastination ». With « intelligent procrastination » people around you see that you’re working but it’s not things that really make your company evolve. For example, spending 2 days choosing the font and colors of your website is « intelligent procrastination ».
  • In the long term doing things that are not really useful for the company’s evolution, will have negative effects. You’ll lose you serenity and have more stress. The symptoms of this state of mind are that you have the impression that everyone is stupid. At that moment, you have to take a holiday right away, otherwise you’ll have a burn-out.

I know it’s a little paradoxical because the first years of the company, you have to work as much as you can because there are lots of things to do and there is no budget to pay employees, but it’s important to have a productive activity to keep the balance in your life.

Usually when you start looking for an idea to start a company, you make a list of the things you like to do the most. This productive activity can be one of those things from the list that wasn’t used to create your company. This can be an activity such as flying a plane, kickboxing, meditation or something else that allows you to relax and forget about work.

Don’t hesitate to write this productive activity in the comment section and if you don’t know, make a list of things you like to do to get ideas.

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-Steph

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No Longer Being A Victim Of The Modern Slavery

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What’s this is THE stephane ANDRE. I watched an Olivier Roland’s video  and I learned good stuff.

Are you a victim of modern slavery ? If you have not yet asked the question, I will tell you the case of infopreneurs victims of modern slavery.

This is often what happens to people who create text, audio and video content on the internet. Imagine this case, a blogger decides to create his/her blog to build a community around a concept, idea or theme for weeks, months or years with free content. This blogger works hard to create free quality content and his/her audience grows little by little.

Fear of losing his/her community

 

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After a few months or years of work, this blogger will propose something to his/her audience, it’s a paid product or a paid service. After all, all work has its merits. But for a minority of his/her community, it’s the scandal, people will make comments things like : « Actually, all you’ve done from the beginning was just to do business. You don’t care about your community, all you want is to make money, etc ».

At that moment, this minority who is scandalized by a paid product or a paid service, doesn’t realize that the message they say is : « Listen, we like you but all we want it’s that you work for us for free. We agree to continue reading your blog’s articles as long as your work for us for free until the end of your life ». The people who act like this are called supporter of slavery. But the craziest part of all this is that these people aren’t aware of this because they are not going to the end of their own reasoning. They react emotionally.

The problem is that we too often see infopreneurs let themselves be impressed by this. It’s normal to earn money to live with dignity, it’s legitimate to have this process because that is how a company works. The goal of infopreneurs is to create a company based on their passion. It’s important not to be negatively influenced by this small minority in the community.

So don’t let yourself be impressed by modern supporter of slavery. You must realize that people who complain are a tiny minority. The silent majority in your community find it normal and these people are motivated to buy your product or service. You know, the small minority who is never happy is always very noise.

You deserve that

 

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And I have to explain something to you, it’s something you’ll only see when you sell a product or a service. There are people in your community who have been following you for months or years, and who buys what your offer simply to thank you for the good free content you have done so far.

When you have recognition like that, it’s priceless and you don’t worry more about the modern slavery’s supporters of the world. Live your passion by creating quality free and paid content because « all work has its merits » and if a person is not happy, you can share this article. It’s the same for an infopreneur who is afraid of losing a part of his/her community if he/she makes a paid product/service, share this article.

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Fear Of Success (Part 2)

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I watched an Oliver Roland’s video  and I learned good stuff

Fear of rejection is embedded in fear of success

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The fear of rejection is even more insidious. Because to succeed, you have to do something that is not accepted by everyone. Typically what scares a lot of bloggers who start to succeed is to move from a model where everything is free to a model where a part is free and the advanced level is paying.

This is probably the most scary step for bloggers and people who create free content for a long time to build their audience. Asking money to the audience is not a bad thing.

Unconscious supporters of slavery

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Sincerely ask yourself this question : « How would you call someone who demands that you work for him for free ? ». He is a supporter of slavery. All the people in your audience who will complain the first time you offer a paid service/product , they are supporters of slavery.

They aren’t conscious supporters of slavery because they didn’t take the time to think about the work you do . They didn’t realize that they’re unconscious supporters of slavery. They require you to work for them for free until the end of your days.

The good news is that when you start offering paid services/products, these people will disappear from your audience and that’s a good thing. It’s a natural selection and it will remain only in your audience people who recognize that all work deserves payment. It’s good to create free content but it’s good to live well too.

For example, many bloggers are afraid to put a popup for people to write their emails to receive newsletters. In fact, 1 week after installing the popup, you will realize that people don’t care.

Solution

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What needs to be done to overcame this fear ? The truth is that there is no miraculous solution. It’s like everything, you have to do it despite the fear. There is no way to get rid of fear before doing the thing that scares you. You need to do this thing while being afraid. You will realize that you are still alive and that the fear was overvalued. And all of a sudden, your fear disappears.

If by chance, you wait for the authorization of someone to be successful, know that I, Stephane, I give you my permission to be successful. Now, you allowed to be successful and I wish you have fun with it.

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-Steph

Fear Of Success (Part 1)

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I watched an Oliver Roland’s video  and I learned good stuff

My Moment Of Clarity

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In 2013 I realized that I was more afraid of success than being homeless. I went to another city for a job opportunity but it didn’t work. For several months, I spent my day with homeless people, illegals immigrants, good-for nothing people and drug addicts. All type of people that society puts aside and forgetting.

At first, I didn’t like this situation but over time I adapted and they accepted me. Now I think about it, I really learned to be a hustler with them. I mainly earned money with people from Africa (Nigeria, Ghana, Mali, Senegal, Congo, etc.) and people from Eastern Europe (Lithuania, Poland, Russia, etc). Often I was fighting on the street because people thought I was a nice little black boy. I train everyday at the gym. I ate 5 times a day. I had my laptop and I had 2 prepaid mobile phone.

But most of all, I felt free because I didn’t have a lot of bills to pay at the end of the month and I still had cash. There was not a days when my bank account was in the red and I promise you that it’s good.

Success in my team

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In my team, there was a Congolese (I don’t say his name because he was a illegal immigrants). He had 4 children with 2 different women in another country and at the end of each month he asked me to have ideas to make more money. He was fed up with this situation, fed up with receiving welfare money that treated him like shit. He wanted to return to Congo and create a company. Now it’s cool, he has a good situation in Congo.

There was a Senegalese. He had a wife, a child and he worked at the airport. One day he lost his job at the airport and I don’t know all the details, but he lost everything. He couldn’t find work and his wife left him and kept the child. His wife didn’t want him to see his child, but she asked him for money. You see, a classic story.

This Senegalese told me that he needed more money because he was fed up with welfare that treated him as an illegal immigrant while he worked and paid his taxes like everyone else. He wanted more money to return to Senegal and start his own company. We worked well together and now he as a good situation in Senegal.

A few days after he left for Senegal, I watched a Gary Vaynerchuk’s video about building a legacy. Boom, I realized that I was more afraid of being rich that being poor because all my childhood I was in a middle classe environment or lower what had become my comfort zone. And my father often told me that I could never be rich.

Fear of success

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With my blog, I see that on internet, there are people who could have more success but they blocked. They’re stuck because of their state of mind because technically they are competent.

There are bloggers who have a good traffic and an email list that grew from day to day but as soon as they have to offer a paid service/product, they block.

This blockage is the fear of success. The fear of success is a fear of change. Definitely leaving the comfort zone for something else. If you succeed you will make more money but it will also change your life outside and the perception of yourself.

To be afraid is not something bad because it allows us to be attentive to everything, to have all our senses at their maximum capacity. You need to be attentive to everything when you’re in a unknown area.

Fear of failure is embedded in fear of success

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But when you’re afraid of success, you are not only afraid of success. There are other fears that add to the fear of success. With the fear of success, you are also afraid of failure.

Think seriously about that. When you feel that you will succeed, it also means that you may fail. The worst time to fail is when you think you can succeed because it’s more painful. It more painful that doing something that is lost in advance.

It’s really comfortable to stay in your comfort zone, complain and do nothing.

This is the end of the 1st part. In 2nd part, I would speak about the fear of rejection which is also in the fear of success.

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-Steph

When you start, be at 100 %

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I read a Nerd Fitness article and there is good stuff.

It was when the last time you were at 100 % to change your life ?

If you’re like me, it had to be hard. We’re afraid of being at 100 % and not succeeding. We want a plan B. We’re afraid to fail in front of our parents and friends.

Instead of being at 100 %, we will be at 50 % by this way, if we fail, we can say : « this system doesn’t work » or « I didn’t really try » or « I already knew it wasn’t going to work ».

Let’s listen to this Charles Bukowski’s poem :

It’s true, this poem doesn’t concern physical transformation but it is applicable .

We prefer to be at 50 % because if we’re at 100 % and we fail, what is left ? If we’re at 100 % and we fail, we will say to ourselves we’re failures, we aren’t good enough.

In reality, be at 100 % and fail is the best thing that could happen. When we used the maximum of our efforts and we fail, we improve our level for the next time. And especially, we don’t have regret. My mother was still talking to me about her regrets, again, 2 days ago. Regrets is poison.

Talk to people who are older than you and you will see their regret’s list is huge.

  • When we’re at 100 % and we fail, we make the first step to a true improvement.

  • When we’re at 50 % and we fail, we have regrets.

If you want improve your physique, be at 100 %. Give the maximum of your efforts, each day and see what you able to do. It’s not only for few days or weeks, it’s for all your life. You improve your body for all your life, not just to show off on the beach in summer.

Remember, if you try, be at 100 %:

« It could mean derision. It could mean mockery–isolation. Isolation is the gift. All the others are a test of your endurance, of how much you really want to do it ».

« And, you’ll do it, despite rejection and the worst odds. And it will be better than anything else you can imagine. If you’re going to try, go all the way. There is no other feeling like that. You will be alone with the gods, and the nights will flame with fire. You will ride life straight to perfect laughter. It’s the only good fight there is ».

Or like say Yoda in Star Wars : « Do or do not, there is no try ».

100 %

100%

We have one life on this planet and we can’t get what we want by being at 50 % because we’re afraid of failure or rejection or worst, fear of success. It’s the to get out of your comfort zone and be comfortable with being uncomfortable.

No self-sabotage, use the maximum of your efforts to reach your goals.

In my case I focus on 2 things : my blog and building strength

-Steph

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Managing Haters

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I read a Nerd Fitness article  and there is good stuff.

Imagine you’re in a restaurant with your friends and the order is :

  • Person A : Chicken and broccoli, please !

  • Person B : I’ll have fish quinoa and a salad please.

  • Person C : I’ll take the steak, asparagus and sweet potato, please.

  • Person D : I’ll take a hamburger and french fries, please !

In this situation, we see that person A,B,C are healthy and person D is overweight. Do you see person A,B,C say to person D :

  • « Are you seriously going to eat that ? »

  • « Are you sure you should be eating that ? »

  • « You’re overweight enough, you should probably eat more like us ».

Obviously no ! Person A,B,C will not say that, it’s too rude.

Now, imagine this 2nd situation :

  • Person A : I’ll take a medium pizza with sausage and side of garlic bread.

  • Person B : I’ll have the chicken parmesan pasta and salad with extra ranch.

  • Person C : I’ll please have the lasagna and let’s get nachos for the table.

  • Person D : I’ll take a chicken salad please, dressing on the side.

You can see person A,B,C say to person D :

  • « Oh come on, why eat like that ? »

  • « Come on, live a little ! You’re too skinny already »

  • « Jeez, I feel bad for you having to eat like that »

If you’re a healthy person, you live the 2nd situation more often than the first.

When people eat unhealthy foods, everybody is silent but when someone eat healthy food, everybody talk, everybody complains !

Haters gonna hate

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The truth is most people don’t like change. They want change but they don’t put effort to realize them. When they see a person do positive change, it makes them feel insecure about their lifestyle.

Rather than change themselves, they prefer :

  • Try to pull you down to their level saying « live a little ! »

  • Decrease the magnitude of your results saying « with all you effort you make, you have only that as results »

  • They explain to you why they can’t change saying « it nice for you »

All these comments serve only for haters feels good about themselves. They’re afraid to change their lives and fail or they tried one time and they failed and see you succeed is the proof that they have really failed.

All these haters in our lives can really make us depressed. We feel we’re the only « mutant » who want evolve and we must be the pariah of the group.

Seth Godin said : « You will be judged or you will ignored »

If you’re afraid that people judge you because you try to change your life by having a healthier lifestyle, you have another option : be ignored. Be part of the mass, be a number. There is nothing exciting but it’s without danger.

How

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Haters are inevitable and there is ways to deal with.

  • Understand judgments are inevitable

    We’re judging every minutes everydays. Be judged because we « eat healthy and do exercices » is too cool, it’s amazing. It requires a mental change to ensre that it is a « badge of honor » for being the « weird one ».

  • Consider the source

    Constructive criticism can help you to be better. But if you’re criticized by someone who is unhealthy, overweight and miserable, it’s not worth to have interest to this criticize. You can answer with a smile : « I know, I weird, right ? ».

  • Board them

    We have friends and family who want change too but we don’t realize the damage from their comments about our efforts. Explain them what you try to change and tell them you would like to have their support and their help.

  • Reevaluate your best asset, your time

    Analyses the 5 persons with who you spend your most of time. Are they negatives people who never reach theirs goals ? If that is the case, you’re surrounded of people who will never help you to reach your goals and you will end up like them. Be surrounded by people who already reached goals you want to reach to exceed your limits. It’s an excellent motivation to see a person live your goal.

  • Understand you’re not alone

    With internet ew can find communites or groups that share the same values to have a healthy lifestyle. Do a search and sigh in. You can still have unhealthy friends and family but spend more time with people who are healthier and stronger than you.

How do you deal with haters until now ?

-Steph

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