Become Insensitive To Haters

hater

What’s up ? This is THE stephane ANDRE !!! I watched an Olivier Roland’s video  and I learned some good stuff.

To be successful, it’s really necessary to have the ability to ignore haters, especially on internet.

Beginners are unaware of the emotional impact that haters can create and it can also scare people who want to start their company online. When you develop your internet presence, avoid haters is impossible.

Hater

A hater is a person who feels the irresistible urge to send you a message by email, comment or tweet to tell you :

  • You’re the stupidest and ugliest person in the world

  • Your content is the most insignificant thing since the creation of the planet earth

  • That he/she hopes that you don’t make children to not spread the evil on the planet earth and that you die quickly

These 3 things are what say haters in general.

The truth is, you can’t avoid that. Select one of your favorite artists, athletes or actors, check out one of his/her video on Youtube and read the comments. You can see the quality’s level of comments and it makes people lose faith in humanity. And it’s not just haters, there are also people who tell a lot of bullshit and insult each other.

A hater is a person who is bored and has no purpose in life, so that person is trying to create trouble in your community and psychologically impact you in a negative way. Fortunately on social media, it’s possible to ban haters.

Don’t be afraid

don't be afraid

I know many people who want to create a blog, a podcast or a Youtube channel but they’re afraid of having a bad buzz. I know a medical student who wants to create something to help students who are in 1st year of medical school but he still doesn’t do anything. This is the same situation as people who never drive because they are afraid of an accident or people who never take a plane.

It’s important to understand :

  • It’s extremely unlikely

  • Even if you have a bad buzz, you’ll survive

  • In any case, you will build a community that will support you.

When you look at the biggest bad buzz in history, it’s rare to see that the sales falls caused the bankruptcy of the company (or maybe you know a case I don’t know). Sometimes there are people who have been a bit traumatized by a bad buzz but in the majority of cases, there is little damage.

The best revenge you can have for haters is to have a good life. To be afraid of the haters that make you afraid to act, that you’re paralyzing, it’s showing to the world that it’s you who are leaving intimidated by something that is very unlikely to happen.

Keyboard warrior

keyboard type

Haters are also called « Keyboard warrior » because generally haters allow themselves to make type of criticism about people on internet but they are unable to do in real life, face to face. They’re comfortable behind their keyboard because they suffer no consequence.

So don’t be intimidated by the keyboard warriors and what I recommend you to do, it’s to keep a bottle of champagne to celebrate your first hater. It’s important to know that having haters is a necessary step in your success. Having your first hater is a sign that you’re on the right track because you’re disturbing someone.

keyboard warrior

Constructive criticism

Among this ton of negative comments (95%), there are also critics who can help you improve. To identify these critics, you must ask yourself this question : « What is the intention of this criticism ? Do I feel that the person wants to help me ? ».

If you feel that the criticism of the person is to help you, you can analyze the criticism and see if you can do something that interest you. If not, you can ban the person. Unfortunately, you’ll see that the majority of critics are not made to help you.

Remember that about haters :

  1. They’re inevitable

  2. They’re a sign of your success. Everyone has haters, even the people you admire the most

  3. They’re keyboard warriors. They say things that he/she doesn’t allow himself/herself to say in real life, face to face.

  4. Keep a bottle of champagne for the day you’ll have yor first hater

  5. To identify constructive criticism, ask yourself this question : « Is there a positive intention in this criticism to improve myself ? ».

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-Steph

Know How Much Weight To Lift (Part 1)

how much

I read a Nerd Fitness article  and I learned good stuff.

When we’re beginners and we have studied the theory well, the first time we train in a gym, we have this kind of questions :

  • What weight should lift to begin with ?

  • If my program tells me to do 5 sets of 5 reps at 80 % of my 1 rep max, how do I get to know my 1 rep max ?

  • In my program, there isn’t this notion of percentage and 1 rep max, how do I know the weight I have to lift ?

Here are some tips to start your program with the right amount of weight.

Bodyweight

bodyweight exercice

The fist step of your workout is to do bodyweight exercices to learn how to do well the bench press.

This may sound odd but I really advise you to take your time to learn to perform well without weights or with a very light weight. Imagine that you can’t climb stairs normally, What happens when you have to climb stairs with bags of supermarket ? Yes, you’re going to hurt yourself.

Here is how you can learn a movement without barbell, dumbbells and weights :

  • To learn barbell’s movement without barbell, you can take a broom stick or a PVC pipe.

  • To learn dumbbells movement without dumbbells, you can take 2 sections of PVC pipe or 2 bottes of water.

It’s true that it’s not the same sensations that with weights but it allows you to learn a movement without risk to hurting you.

With this method, you can train at home alone. No one looks at you like in a gym so you’re less nervous. What’s cool is that yo can film yourself with your smartphone to compare your videos with tutorial videos that you can find on Youtube of elsewhere.

To learn in depth how to move, I recommend the book Starting Strength .

Once you feel confortable with movements, you go to the next level.

Barbell

barbell

For your first training with the barbell for the bench press, you’ll use the barbell without weights to be comfortable with. As you read in my articles Back To The Source Of Equipment Part 1 et Part 2 , the barbell i’m talking about is the Olympic barbell 20 kg (45 lbs).

If you have difficulty with the Olympic barbell, here are some alternative.

A lighter barbell

Look in your gym if there are lighter barbell like the « women’s bar » 13.6-15.87 kg (30-35 lbs) or the « training bar » 6.8 kg(15 lbs). EZ curl bar isn’t designed for the bench press.

Dumbbells

You can use dumbbells. It’s true that isn’t really the same movement but it will help you to build your strength to be comfortable with the Olympic barbell.

Bodyweight exercices

Continue to do bodyweight exercice as squat, lunges, pull ups, push ups. This will help you to build your strength to be comfortable with the Olympic barbell.

That may be the opposite. For you to use the Olympic barbell without weight is easy. I still advise you to continue your first training with the Olympic barbell without weight. In this way, you can concentrate for each repetition to have the best technique possible. Wait the next session to add weights.

There isn’t ego in a gym. Unfortunately in gyms we often see people lifting very heavy weights with a poor technique and this happens more and more often. I have 2 friends who have dislocated their shoulders with the bench press and now they can no longer develop their chest and their shoulders.

One of these 2 friends showed in front of me who his shoulder dislocates when he do bench press and he regrets a lot of having lift too heavy with a bad technique. Since I’ve seen this, I prefer to lift lighter with a good technique and I advise you to do the same.

If after your first training with the Olympic barbell, you’re still not comfortable with. I recommend you to continue to train with the Olympic barbell without weights until you’re comfortable with. If you need to do this for 10 sessions, do it, there is not problem.

I’ll tell you something, Listen carefully. If you get hurt, it’s not because you body isn’t ready. It’s because you don’t trust in you under the Olympic barbell. Self-confidence is the most important element to lift heavyweights and heavier. It means knowing when you can lift and when you can’t lift. An athlete train his/her body and mind.

If you have planned to use dumbbells as your main lift (like me) and don’t use Olympic barbell, stat with 2.2-4.5 kg (5-10 lbs) dumbbells to work your technique.

Add weights

weight plate

Most beginners workout programs are 5 sets of 5 reps, 3 sets of 8 reps or 3 sets of 10 reps. For this example, we’ll use 5 sets of 5 reps.

Your workout should always begin with a warm-up routine. Then you take the barbell without weights and you do the repetitions number of your program (for our example, it’s 5).

Yeah, yeah, I know. You thought that after the warm-up routine, you could lift heavy but you have not quite prepared your body yet. For each exercice, you need to warm your body with lightweights. It’s very important to do this because it allows your body to warm your nervous system and the muscles needed to make the movement.

For beginners, it’s really important to learn the good technique right away.

Increase gradually

Once your nervous system and your muscles are ready, add between 1.1 kg (2.5 lbs) and 4.5 kg (10 lbs) on each side. Do a set of 5 reps with this weight.

Note : If your strength training is based on dumbbells like me, starts with 2.2 kg (5 lbs) dumbbells, then 4.5 kg (10 lbs) dumbbells for example.

If you can do 5 reps without degrading your technique and without slowing the speed of the barbell, you can add weight. If it’s really light adds 4.5 kg (10 lbs) on each side or less like 2.2 kg (5 lbs).

Continue to do this process until the speed of the barbell or you technique begins to deteriorate. The weight you lifted before your technique deteriorates is the starting weight on which you will base all your future exercises.

The basic weight for your workout

If you thought you could lift more, don’t panic, that’s the right number. You’re not in a gym to impress someone. It doesn’t matter if it’s your first or your 1000th workouts. It’s better to start too light than too heavy. The goal is to do quick reps with a good technique. When your technique deteriorates, you have reached a limit with your body, too much will create an injury.

In this process, you’re trying to lift the heaviest weight you can so use collars for your safety. When it becomes difficult, ask someone to be your spotter to avoid an injury.

This is the end of the Part 1. In the Part 2, I’ll talk about what to do after several workouts, find your 1 rep max and what amount of weight is respectable to lift.

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-Steph

Change Your Diet Successfully

change diet

I read a Nerd Fitness article  and there is good stuff.

I imagine you took you 1st January’s resolutions to have a better body. Do you always to that ?

88 % of people fail to reach their fitness resolutions for a year ! Yes, studies prove it. But there are 12 % who succeed. Let’s see.

Momentum

super mario bros

I’ll use the game « Super Mario Bros » to explain. When we start the game, we’re small, we don’t have armor (or powers). If we run on an enemy, we lose a life and we start at the beginning of the stage. We restart, we restart and we restart.

And if on our way we find a mushroom, we change, we become bigger and stronger. We can be hit by an enemy one time without restart the stage. If we can continue without being hit, we can fin a Fire Flower. We can attack our enemies at a distance and we must be hit three times to restart the stage.

Healthy eating habits

Everything is difficult when we start something new. We need to be careful because we’re attacking from everywhere. The Matrix use parties, birtdays or advertisements to prevent you from having a healthy diet.

Each times we don’t resist to these attacks (temptations), we feel we have failed and restart to the beginning. The truth is that every day is a success. If in the day you eat one healthy meal, it’s a success !

By giving our maximum to eat a healthy meal a day, we build our strength, then you’ll eat 2 healthy meals a day and we’ll become stronger and so on. Little by little we build a healthy eating habits and we’ll find the Fire Flower to attack enemies like in « Super Mario Bros ».

Short Time Diet

short time diet

The problem I have with these « diets » is that is a temporary food change to achieve a result adn then return to old habits.

For 6 months people struggle to lose weight and then gain even more weight than before. I see my friends do this and I can tell you that every 2 years, everybody notices that they gained a lot of fat. It’s weird.

Diets are like invincible star in « Super Mario Bros », it’s a power that lasts 10 seconds. We can go very far in the stage without being hit by enemies. The problem is when we take the invincible star when we’re small and after we have to fight the Boss. The Boss hit us one time and we restart the stage.

We have more change to beat the Boss when we cross the stage slowly by accumulating coins and power up that we can find rather than invincible star.

To change your diet, it’s the same principle, it’s the transition to a new lifestyle. It’s not temporary, it’s a lifestyle to be healthy all the days of the year all the life.

Education

education

To can change food habits effictively, educating on food is very important. Sugar in processed food is very addictive. When we stop to eat processed foods, we my be lacking as an addict, having a crisis and eating a large amount of it. It’s for this reason we call it « junk food », foods for junkies.

Sugar has the same chemical reaction than cocaine in our brain. Read this article .

Like a junkie we say :

  • « Just one it’s not bad »

  • « Why I need to lose weight, it’s no use »

  • « I stop to eat it tomorrow »

Slowly but surely

I took several months before getting used to a healthy diet. Each month, I had food goal. It’s was like eat a healthy meal during the day, drink green tea, buy only 2 cookies packs during the week, drink a little bottle of water. From month to month, it became easier without having a hug desire for sugar. And if I a desire for sugar (because it still happen), I eat a teaspoon of honey (mmmmh, honey is so good).

I think it took me 9 months to have a complete healty diet. Now, I always adjust my food with smartphone’s application MyFitnessPal  and it’s fun because adjust my food is like do an update with an application, it’s cool.

Execution

execution

The first time we play « Super Mario Bros », we don’t have weapon and armor. We know if we’re hit one time, we restart the stage and a enemy come to us. We press all buttons on the controller to understand how to make move Mario. Serously at this precise moment we don’t think, we execute.

To start we a healthy diet is the same thing.

Perfect meal ?

Forget that, eat pasta or rice with vegetable with meat, tuna or eggs.

Perfect breakfast ?

Forget that, eat oatmeal or a plate of pasta or rice with vegetable with meat, tuna or eggs (it’s really my beakfast, I’m not joking)

Let’s do both things at the same time : education and execution.

What is your worst diet you tested ?

-Steph

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