The Mistake Of Learning From Mistakes

mistake

I watched an Olivier Roland’s video  and I learned good stuff.

It’s true that learn from your mistakes is a good method to improve yourself but you can do a huge mistake by doing this. Let me explain to you, the huge mistake is to only learn from your own mistakes. Look the world, we’re billions and there are billions of people who lives before us. As everyone makes mistakes, learning from mistakes of others is also a good strategy.

Mistakes of others

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Look mistakes from people who are in the domain where you want progress allow you to save time and money. I think we know it but we forget to do it quickly. It’s important to have a strategy to learn from mistakes of others to progress.

I tell you the truth, I also made this mistake several times. Sometimes I noticed that I had a talent and I was alone in solo thinking that I was smart enough to succeed. I thought I didn’t need professors, books, etc. It’s an ego trip, it’s the best method to waste time and almost guarantee failure. Yes, I know there are exceptions, some people happen to be successful in being solitary wolves but it’s clear that they lose a lot of time.

No matter where you want to succeed, there is a golden rule. You need master the basics ! Once you master the basics, you can be creative but not before.

You can try to be creative before master the basics and in 90 % of the cases you’ll fail, it’s true. Look at people who are successful, people who are creative, they were all newbies and they all learned the basics.

Example

Looks at the creative chefs who have restaurants with 3 stars in the Michelin guide. Do you think at the first day in kitchen, they said to themselves : « Go, I make a crazy recipe ? ». No, they learned to cook rice, pasta and they had to learn the basics like everyone else.

There is a company very creative that is Cirque Du Soleil  that reinvented the show. You notice that there is a lot of circus inspiration and other domains. It looks very similar to fusion restaurants. You know this concept where you take the best recipes from 2 countries and you make a mix of 2 to make a menu.

Learn form mistakes of others

biography

First

The simplest method is to read the biography from people who are successful in the field where you evolve. You’ll learn a lot of things, you’ll see that they strarted from nothing and sometimes they made incredible mistakes. Reading biographies helps you avoid making these mistakes.

Second

Be in touch with people who are successful in your field. Don’t absolutely look for people who are at the level where you would like to be, communicate with people who are better than you. Ask them what are the classic mistakes that beginners make.

Put in place a stratregy to know mistakes of others and solutions they used to move forward. You’ll see, this will save you from unnecessary stress.

Attention is a thing to do in addition to attend trainings, see tutorials in video,etc.

What I mean is not be a lone wolf. Connect you, inform you, be curious, attends trainings and find mistakes that you must not make before you make them.

-Steph

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Know What We Want In Life

what you want

I watched an Olivier Roland’s video  and there is good stuff.

A lot of young and less young (30-50 years old) still don’t know what they want in life. It’s not something essential to succeed in life and be happy. But read this Seneca’s quote: « If one does not know to which port one is sailing, no wind is favorable ». Life can be more interesting when we know what we want to accomplish. When you take your car, before to go in your car, you know your destination. Do you already used your car without knowing the destination ?

I think it’s important that people know what they want accompish in life, what they want leave as inheritance or legacy. To do this, we need to find our passion, a passion that drive you to be better than yesterday.

I know people used different exercices to find their passion but they found nothing, it’s a failure and they’re frustrated. In my opinion, these people have just an exploration problem.

Exporation

exploration

Exlpore several activities is a great way to find a passion. It’s simple, how do you know you like an activity, if you have never tried this. May be you are an archery olympic champion but how do you know if you have never tried archery ?

I encourage you to do new activites, meet people, discuss with them and pratices to decrease the number of activites you don’t know. The truth is that your passion will not come to seek you.

Exlpore new activies, it’s good but don’t become addicted to exporation’s phase.

In a passion, there is 3 steps :

  • Exploration phase

    It’a like when we fall in love, everything is awesome, everything is beautiful.

  • Dry period phase

    For most people, it’s in this phase that they abandon. The enthusiasm of the beginning diminishes enormously. We spend a lot of energy for little result compared to a person who has done the same thing for 3-5 years.

    And it’s also in this phase where we must be careful to not be addicted to the exploration phase. For people who don’t like the dry period phase, they will find several excuses to change activity instead of holding on until to have good results.

  • Consecration phase

    It’s at this moment that we harvest the seeds that we sowed and generally success always exceeds us.

Project

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Once we found a passion, have a project around this passion allow us to become a better version or ourselves. This project will allow us to get out of our comfort zone, to give the better or ourselves because we really want to succeed. The ideal is to combine a passion, skill and economic potential if you want to become an entrepreneur.

To test your project, I advise you to use « Lean startup » by experimenting in the field using little time, energy and money.

What is your last activity that you did and that you liked ? Do you plan a project with ?

-Steph

When you start, be at 100 %

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I read a Nerd Fitness article and there is good stuff.

It was when the last time you were at 100 % to change your life ?

If you’re like me, it had to be hard. We’re afraid of being at 100 % and not succeeding. We want a plan B. We’re afraid to fail in front of our parents and friends.

Instead of being at 100 %, we will be at 50 % by this way, if we fail, we can say : « this system doesn’t work » or « I didn’t really try » or « I already knew it wasn’t going to work ».

Let’s listen to this Charles Bukowski’s poem :

It’s true, this poem doesn’t concern physical transformation but it is applicable .

We prefer to be at 50 % because if we’re at 100 % and we fail, what is left ? If we’re at 100 % and we fail, we will say to ourselves we’re failures, we aren’t good enough.

In reality, be at 100 % and fail is the best thing that could happen. When we used the maximum of our efforts and we fail, we improve our level for the next time. And especially, we don’t have regret. My mother was still talking to me about her regrets, again, 2 days ago. Regrets is poison.

Talk to people who are older than you and you will see their regret’s list is huge.

  • When we’re at 100 % and we fail, we make the first step to a true improvement.

  • When we’re at 50 % and we fail, we have regrets.

If you want improve your physique, be at 100 %. Give the maximum of your efforts, each day and see what you able to do. It’s not only for few days or weeks, it’s for all your life. You improve your body for all your life, not just to show off on the beach in summer.

Remember, if you try, be at 100 %:

« It could mean derision. It could mean mockery–isolation. Isolation is the gift. All the others are a test of your endurance, of how much you really want to do it ».

« And, you’ll do it, despite rejection and the worst odds. And it will be better than anything else you can imagine. If you’re going to try, go all the way. There is no other feeling like that. You will be alone with the gods, and the nights will flame with fire. You will ride life straight to perfect laughter. It’s the only good fight there is ».

Or like say Yoda in Star Wars : « Do or do not, there is no try ».

100 %

100%

We have one life on this planet and we can’t get what we want by being at 50 % because we’re afraid of failure or rejection or worst, fear of success. It’s the to get out of your comfort zone and be comfortable with being uncomfortable.

No self-sabotage, use the maximum of your efforts to reach your goals.

In my case I focus on 2 things : my blog and building strength

-Steph

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Become Antifragile

fragile

I read a Nerd Fitness article  and there is good stuff.

There is a interesting book « Antifragile : Things that Gain From Disorder » of Naseem Taleb.

The concept is to rebuilt our body and our environment to become antifragile, getting stronger and more resilient as more chaos is introduced.

Do you want be strong like your movie’s hero or your comic’s hero ? Read the next !

Antifragile

antifragile

In all domains in life, there is 3 types :

  • Fragile

    This object must be handled with care. This object could break if there is a variation in handling. This object must be out of danger to survive.

  • Solid

    This object doesn’t need to be handled with care. This object can be throw or hit, it will not change. It’s well built and resistant. If it breaks, it will be rebuilt exactly in the same way.

  • Antifragile

    This object doesn’t handled it wiht care ! This object can be throw, broke, throw in chaos, it becomes stronger. It’s like Hydra’s myth, you cut a head and two heads apprears. In fact, an antifragile object become weak when it handled with care.

Did you believed like me that human being was a « fragile » type ?

Nature like chaos and use it to make corrections and make change to survive like an ecosystem. Disasters, climat changes and others elements erase « fragile » members of a species. Stronger and antifragile members of a species survive.

The good new is we can become antifragile. Look :

  • When you take something heavy, your joints, muscle and bone rebuild themselves to become stronger in cas where there would be more chaos. This is the basis, if we don’t do physical activity, our muscles and bones can atrophy and weaken.

  • When we have a disease in our body at a certain dose, our body built a resistance et become stronger against it.

  • When we’re children, we learn than pans on the stove are hot, animals bite and life is difficult. We learn all these little pieces of chaos to prepare us to survive when we become adult.

Because we’re antifragile creature, we need chaos and failure in our life or we will die.

Do you remember how are humain being is the move « Wall-E » ? Humain beings are without muscles and are unable to take care of themselves. Don’t get out of you comfort zone and you become like them (and like my father) !

Antifragile body

antifragile body

If we want be ready to survive in the unknown, we need to constently get out of our comfort zone, challenges and chaos in our body.

In summary, it’s :

  • Enough chaos to force our body to rebuilt itself to become stronger.

  • Chaos in a specific amount of intensity

  • Enough time to our body to recover after chaos (training)

If you walk the same distance with the same speed every day, your heart will adapt to use less energy to do this until there is too much chaos like a very stress day at school/work.

When you feel this distance is easy, walk faster or another challenge. Transform your heart to become stronger and more resilient to manage some chaos more powerful.

There is another way to put chaos in your body, training :

  • if you do a deadlift at 90kg (200lbs) a time, your body is forcing to adapt in different way to lift 68kg (160lbs) several times (reps).

    By forcing your body to adapt to lift heavy weight, your bones, your nervous system, joints and muscles need to adapt to become more antifragile to lift weight heavier. Talibe say we must force our body to adapt to the maximum level of chaos (heavy weight training) to go beyond our limit differently than medium weight or sets with a lot of reps.

Antifragile diet

healthy food

The construction of an antifragile body can be totally destroyed by an « fragile » nutrition like fast foods (Nutrisystem, microwave meals, etc ).

To have an antifragile diet, we need to learn to cook ourselves and don’t be afraid to try new ingredients. Cook isn’t a thing we have to afraid or to be ashamed, it’s something good and important to have a good health. Embrace it. There is a lot of healty meals on internet, it ‘s cool.

Chaos in your diet ? Eat more meals training days and skip a meal non-training days. Don’t become a maniac to count calories or to have the perfect number of hours between meals. As long as you eat 4-6 meals per day, it’s ok.

You want to the next level : grow your food. If you can grow vegetables and raise animals, it’s great my friends. Some resources here  and there .

Here are the basics to build an antifragile body prepared to any amount of chaos and a nutritional strategy to have the energy needed to cross each chaos.

What is your first step to become antifragile ?

-Steph

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Imitate Before Innovate

imitate before innovate

I watched an Olivier Roland’s video  and there is good stuff.

A lot of beginners make the mistake to reinvente the wheel because they don’t want to follow an exemple of someone. They tink because human beings are unique, they must create something original. It’s not wrong in the principle but it’s wrong in the process

Here the story of 2 friends of Olivier Roland.

Study case

These 2 friends created a blog about personal development for men. This blog worked good and they made the first product 1 year after the blog’s creation. They each earn around EUR 1000.- per month. It was cool because they were students and the blog had more success.

The problem is that one of the two partners got big headed because of success. He wanted to create a product totally different, a different format and break the rules.They launched the second product and unfortunately it was a huge failure.

The partner who wanted brea the rules took this failure personally and he decided to abandon the blog. The 2 friends didn’t find a agreement and they stopped the blog.

Analysis

Here a sad exemple of a company that had a great potential. All because of arrogance. Sometimes we must understand we don’t know everything. There are things we don’t understand how they work but they are efficient. Be skeptical. Test and see if it work for you.

In our case, this guy tested a new model and he abandoned because he took it personally, too much ego ! It doesn’t matter, don’t feel guilty. It’s normal to have failures but at the beginning imitate instead innovate.

Jim Rohn said :

« Success leaves clues »

jim rohn

You can study how successful people you admire made. You can imitate some strategies, techniques and methods they used. Once after you reaching a certain point, you can add your personal touch, only at this moment

Do you know a case where the  arrogance destroyed the potential ?

-Steph

Upgrade Your Life

upgrade your life

I read an Nerd Fitness article  and there is good stuff.

I play video games since I can use a controller and I was always excited to know :

  • What is there in this castle ?

  • What is there behind this door ?

  • What is there in this way ?

This possibility to explore, improve skills and have harder challenges everytime gave me more desire to play. There was always a new bad guy to beat, a new place to expore ou a new weapon.

Is it possible to use video games principles to improve lifestyle ? Let’s see.

Blocked

Here an Onion’s article . « Alarming New Adult Trend – Plateauing In Your Career And Relationship – Sweeps Nation ».

With this passage :

It’s called « plateauing in your career and relationship », and it involves adult men and women hitting a wall in their professional and romantic lives and doing absolutely nothing to reinvigorate them, an activity that researchers at University of Chicago’s Department of Comparative Human Development warn may be, while popular, highly dangerous and unhealthy.

Sources confirmed that plateauing in your career and relationship is merely the latest fad to grip adults in recent years, following on the heels of popular trends such as giving up on your dream of writing a novel, having kids because it’s a box to check, and gradually feeling alienated in your own body after steady weight gain.

OK,OK, stay calm, stay calm. Me too, I thought : « But it’s my life ! ». So if we reach this plateau, ours lives are adrift and I was this guy !.

Gaming

push start mario yoshi

What video games have to be so addictive ? Video games pay my attention for 3 reasons :

  • A chance to live vicariously through a tough guy

  • A constant source of improvement and rewards

  • A chance to interact with people of minds

I like Legend of Zelda because I can see myself like Link, a little boy with a wood sword who explore a big scary world to save a princess (sometimes the princess don’t need to be saved). There is always something to find or a place to discover.

All these video games like Chrono Trigger, Final Fantasy, GTA gave me a lot of entertainment but they gave me something else, something I didn’t know.

Run away

  • Run away a new school’s day because there is no challenge, this isn’t interesting and there is no progress.

  • Run away a new job’s day that wasn’t interesting and didn’t match with my skills.

  • Run away a new day of my life that wasn’t excited like the life of video games characters.

We all do it with a book, a movie or something else and it’s cool to run away and live the life of sombody else. We all want a chance to do something that doesn’t exist in the real life. it’s fun to live a life in a fantasy world to relax after a long day. This isn’t bad except if this make us forget to upgrade ours lifestyle. Have a job just to pay rent and eat, an unfulfilling relationship and don’t be excited to do an activity outside of a screen, it’s like to be plugged to the Matrix. Did you watch the movie ?

Since I realized the Matrix, I adjusted my vision about books, movies and video games. Instead to use them to run away to my life, I use them like inspiration to improve my mindset.

Be excited to be better

In gamers community, there is a section like : « Who can best this game faster ? ». Beat Super Mario Bros in less of 5 minutes ou Legend of Zelda Ocarina of Time in less of 20 minutes. Those games train to beat the game as fast as possible. They’re felt in love with the concept of be better or be the best.

Now, how to do in the real life ? Identify a skill that you like to do and you like to improve. Think about this skill with which you like challenge yourself, this skill who make you feel alive and work to improve this skill.

For me, it’s bodybuilding and I have some challenge like :

  • Can I run faster ?

  • Can I be stronger ?

  • Can I be more agile ?

If it’s a fail, instead to say to myself I’m not able to do this. I say to myself this fail isn’t crucial to be successful. Learn from failure is what allows you to succeed. Exaclty like in a video game when you push restart.

Find a skill and challenge yourself to improve it.

Everydays

everydays make things happen

A quest to improve your lifestyle to infinity. Here the list of my challenges. I must do at less one per day. If I do more, it’s BOOOM :

  • Find my main quest

  • Learn the basics of strenght training

  • Try a new exercice

  • Improve my social skills

  • Master my habits

  • Save some money for an adventure (travel)

  • Learn a recipe

In the real life :

  • Do I lift more weight at the gym ?

  • Do I do one more set ?

  • Do I help anyone to improve its life ?

  • Do I save some money for my next adventure ?

  • Do I reach the job I want ?

  • Do I improve my job ?

Are you improve our lifestyle this year ?

-Steph

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