Have The Chance That You Deserve

chance

What’s up ? This is THE stephane ANDRE !!! I watched an Olivier Roland’s video  and I learned some good stuff.

We’re lucky that we deserve. It’s true that there a bit of luck in everyone’s success. If I take my case, I recognize that I was lucky to be born in an industrialized country with internet and a good education. But I also created some of the luck that allows me to have my lifestyle today.

We aren’t all born under the same star or not with the same cards, that we can’t change. The thing we can do is to do with what we have to get something better. Having this state of mind is essential to having a better lifestyle. It’s important to be proactive. Whatever the bad luck or the handicap, you have the possibility to realize your dreams. It will be harder than other people but it’s possible with perseverance and patience.

Made with what you have

use what you got to have what you want

Here’s what you have to say to yourself : « My dream is that, maybe I’m not very lucky to succeed and maybe people will think I’m crazy, but I’m going to try to do something. I’m not going to do like the majority of people, I’m going to act, I’m going to do different and do interesting things ».

The truth is that the greatest craziness is to believe that by always doing the same thing, we will have different results. By always doing the same thing, we always have the same results. If you think you deserve better than that in your life, change your comfort, change your actions.

Seneca says something interesting in « Moral Letter to Lucilius ». He talks about people who commit suicide. He says it’s a paradox. It’s a paradox to give up life. What Seneca means is that it’s more constructive to try to change the actions that led to the results of being disgusted with life rather than leaving life.

It’s true that there are also elements that are outside our control or elements like psychology, depression, but whatever your despair, you can choose to change your actions to have another result. I will not lie to you, it will not be easy and it will not happen overnight. The main thing is that you have to try new things, experiment new things, get out of your comfort zone. It’s like this quote : « It’s when we walk that we risk failing ».

Go to another world

comfort zone

The majority of people are in a frozen environment. They’ve been doing the same things for years, they’ve been thinking the same way for years and their lifestyle is stagnating. Get out of this environment to experiment other things and meet people who think differently but share the same values as you. It’s these types of people that will motivate you to do things you never thought you’d do.

When you dream of something, it always seems impossible to you. Publish a book, start a company, change job because it’s frustrating, all that, you feel like it’s outside of your world. It’s true that it’s outside of your world but you have the possibility of making it a reality. Look, imagine that you are on the beach and you have to go to the mountain but you don’t know the way. The majority of people will stay on the beach because it’s more comfortable and safer.

It’s true that it’s safer to stay on the beach but over time, it becomes boring. The best plan is to go towards the mountain and on the way, you will find the first step. At this point, you can ask how to go to the second stage. At the second stage, you can ask how to go to the third stage, etc. In this way, gradually, you reach the mountain learning a lot of new things.

To start a company, it’s the same plan. You find an idea. Then you write a 2-3 pages project that explains how this idea can become a company. Then you look for how to finance this company. Then you create a product or service and you contact prospects, etc. It’s obvious that when you start these projects, you don’t really know the stages. Do this plan now with the knowledge you have, this will allow you to demystify the process and find the first stage.

We must stop dwelling. You have goals, you have frustrations, you want to do things to improve your lifestyle, run the plan. Go to the first stage and get information for the next stage. There is never a perfect time to start (that’s an excuse to procrastinate). You have to start imperfectly and do it anyway. It’s the only way to get the chance you deserve.

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-Steph

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Improve Discipline

discipline

I watched an Olivier Roland’s video  and I learned good stuff.

Here is how I worked, a few year ago. I had a project that I really wanted to do and I thought to myself : « When I come back home tonight after eating, I work on it ». And after eating, I preferred to play video games or watch a TV show until sleep. I think that situation has already happened to you.

Regret is a poison

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Now I realize that if I had done these projects, I would have had more fulfilling lifestyle, I would have leaned to manage my money earlier and I would have interesting contacts earlier. Maybe I wouldn’t have had it all earlier but in any case a part, that’s for sure.

Discipline and productivity are important skills to create and evolve a project. I did project but these weren’t my most ambitions projects. These weren’t projects with big risks, so I dissatisfied inside of me. The problem is that all this insatisfaction transformed into frustration.

There are a lot of things I wanted to do in theory and that I never did.

As you know on my blog, I mainly talk about fitness/bodybuilding and I notice that many people enroll in a gym with a 3 months subscription and go to the gym only 2 times. This is a classic case.

Know that there is a solution because before I had very little discipline and productivity and now it’s improving more and more.

Track you progress

track progress

To have more discipline and productivity, you need to make sure that this is a long-term goal. This requires several years to have concrete results like for sport. We would like to have results right away but the best things take time because it’s an exploration in yourself.

This is not going to be Disneyland every day because there are times when you’re going to tell yourself you’re not going get there. That’s why you need to keep track of your results. It’s interesting to note why you’re less motivated to continue your project to better understand yourself. You’ll read books on personal development, follow training, meet people who have the same goal as you. With this methods you’ll build your own toolbox to improve your discipline and your productivity.

What is cool when we keep track of our results is that we can see our evolution from month to month, year by year. It’s funny to see your results 2 years ago to really realize your progress.

Increase your success

increase success

To find a way to improve my discipline and productivity, I read on internet that enrolling in a group of people who shared the same goals as me could be extremely motivating. So I looked for websites and Facebook’s groups. What is interesting in groups is that every week a person offers a challenge. Then everybody share their results and everyone shares their impressions.

It’s also possible that you find a person in your entourage who has the same goal as you. I find it really cool to put people around you into groups because the more people there are the greater the motivation.

You see, the fact of telling everyone that you are challenging, force you to be disciplined and productive to complete the project. And there were always funny punishments for people who didn’t show their project. And little by little, you improve and often you have proposals to make competitions.

I used to do this for sport at first but this concept is used in all fields such writing, photography, dancing (I like dance salsa), cooking, etc. And in all these field there are competitions several times in the year. Here is an example that astonished me, watch the paper airplane world championship .

No need to be a shaolin monk

shaolin monk

By tracking your results, you’ll find ways to boost your will without it being painful. You know, you don’t have to work to have the discipline’s level of a Shaolin monk, you just need to have a discipline’s level that allows you to make your projects a reality.

Several scientific studies have made an important discovery in order to better understand human beings. This is because the will is an element that trains as a muscle to develop. Which means that to develop your discipline, you have to train it like a muscle and it doesn’t happen overnight.

Here are resources, this article. Kelly McGonigal’s book « The Willpower instinct ». Viktor E. Frankl’s book «  Man’s search to meaning »  on attitude and discipline in the worst circumstances.

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-Steph