How To Reduce Stress (Part 2)

stress

I watched an Olivier Roland’s video  and I learned good stuff.

If you didn’t read Part 1, click here

3rd step – organize yourself and communicate

organize yourself

 

Organize

Managing your schedule helps limit stress and to do that, here’s what you can do :

  • Prevent an additional 10 to 20 minutes on your travel times.

  • Make a list of priority tasks to do and not to do.

  • Identify bad habits, tasks to eliminate and tasks to delegate.

  • Automatize a maximum of tasks.

  • Focus on taks that immediately bring visible results

  • Avoid to scatter you.

  • Stop these time consuming habits like reading your emails as soon as they arrive of watching your smartphone as soon as there is a notification. Tamagochi  is a toy, not a lifestyle.

  • Do things in their time. Each task, even minimum, must be completed before moving on the next one. This method allows you to improve your concentration and the satisfaction of having completed a task is very motivating.

  • Pause during the day and cultivate your patience. In a situation where you have to wait, take the time to relax instead of sighing and complaining. For example in a queue for a counter, use that : Wait = relax and breathe deeply. Concentrate on yourself in a positive way and on the present moment.

Communicate

  • Stress is often born from the fact that we don’t know what our interlocutors expect from us. We can’t read people’s minds, so don’t hesitate to ask clearly what people expect of you. Dare to ask questions and create a direct communication. Banish your ego and think that you aren’t absolutely right. You can also avoid sensitive topics.

  • Say « no ». If you can’t render a service someone asks you because you have no time or no resources or you don’t want to take additional responsibilities, then explain that to your interlocutor. Your interlocutors will understand the situation and you will find an arrangement. It’s better to say « no » from the start than to force yourself to keep your commitments. With this attitude, you will avoid being overwhelmed.

4th step – turn away or adapt and accept

 

turn away

 

accept

 

  • Avoid the trigger elements of stress. Limit your contact with people who stress you. Be aware of your environment and control that. For example, use an alternative road to avoid traffic jams. Turn off TV to avoid listening to information that makes you anxious. If you did the analysis of 20% of sources that bring you 80% your stress, you know the people that you must see the minimum or eliminate them from your contacts.

  • Adjust yourself by being willing to compromise. Be assertive by adapting your requirements and avoiding perfectionism.

  • Reframe conflicts by analyzing the problem in a positive way. Look at good things and find benefits of the situation. Focus on positive elements.

  • Accept the trigger of stress and admit that you can’t control everything.

  • Looking for opportunities to improve yourself. Concentrate on what this stressful situation can teach you. Follow the principle of this quote : « What doesn’t kill you , make you stronger » and ask yourself these questions : « How can I get better with this experience ? What did I learn ? ».

  • Forgive. Accept that others make mistakes (because you also make mistakes) and try to evacuate any feeling of anger. When you free yourself from all this negative energy, it’s easy to resume your projects.

In summary « The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another » as William James said.

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-Steph

Beyond Perfectionism

perfectionism

I watched an Olivier Roland’s video  and there is good stuff.

Perfectionism

perfectionism

It’s the fact of spending an infinite time on details to be sure that everything is perfect. It can be an advantage but often it’s a huge disavantage. Because we spend months, years to create something perfect in his/her room and when we launch it, we realize that everybody don’t care.

Case study

case study

It’s a student of the BloggerPro training who is a marketing internet’s teacher in a prestigious business school. He has refistered for this training but he thought he doesn’t need to do everything in this training because he’s a marketing internet teacher. He just took things who interest him. Result, he spent 2 years to write a painting book to make masterpiece and when his book launched, nobody buy it.

Then, he did again the training using all anti-perfectionism techniques. Result, he made a first product he sold 25 000 euros in one week. It was a training about the color mixture in paint.

Intelligent procrastination

intelligent procrastination

Yes, perfectionism can be also a procratination’s type, an intelligent procrastination. In contrary of stupid procrastination, it’s procrastinating while feeling well. When we procrastinate stupidly, we don’t do something that we promised to do saying we will do it tomorrow. And we will feel guilty.

Intelligent procrastination, we’re choking under a lot of work. We can believe that we make progress but we just avoid something that scares us.

There is a lot of authors, entrepreneurs, globe-trotter, people who have great ambitions fall into it because they’re afraid to confront reality. They’re afraid to fail or they’re afraid to have success. It’s unconscious, they want it to be perfect. They will remain within a theoretical framework. They will be the best in the his/her room. « Lean Startup » method  help to have success.

 

Lean Startup

lean startup

The method is to set up as soon as possible in the field a prototype, a minimum viable product. It’s a method anti-perfectionism. We will focus on the 20 % of features/actions that will bring the 80 % of the result, 80 % of what people want.

And we will bring these 20 % as soon as possible in the field to be confront with reality to see if it’s good or if it’s need to have adjustements.

If you’re writing a book, try to confront you with reality as soon as possible. Develops a community when you begin to write the book. This community will help you to promote your book but also you can show to your community your ideas and see how your community react. See if what you write interest really people. This is can be in video or article.

Case study

case study

A blogger who have a blog called «  Personal revolution » have wrote a novel several years ago. This novel called « The woman without fear » that was in the top 100 of Kindle’s sales during several months. How he wrote this novel ? He did in form of episodes in his blog. There a lot of famous authors who wrote novels which were the basis of soap operas published in newspapers. You can do the same thing today with your blog. You can write a part of your first chapter so that you community can give you feedbacks. You community will give you ideas, suggestions. If’s a kind of co-creation to write the rest of the story. In addition, it puts you in a anti-procrastination process because you’re creating the audience that will be waiting for the next. It will boost you.

Community responsability

community responsability

Say your goal to the world and ensure that people follow you to ask about your evolution. The interest is that you will involve peope who will then broadcast what you have done when it’s completed. This blog wrote the half of his novel in his blog and with the help of his community.

You see the process ? He wrote a novel adapted to his audience because of feedbacks of his community. He knew, the day of the lauch of the book, there is already a community of people who were motivate to buy the book because they wanted to know the rest of the story.

Perfectionism is to have a product adjusted to reality in the field

Do you have a community for your product/service ?

-Steph