Universal And Unique Principles

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I watched an Olivier Roland’s video  and I learned good stuff.

I noticed that there is an approach to selling a service or product, especially used by coaches, which is based on the principle that « everyone is different ». Say like that, it’s hard not to agree with this principle because everyone is unique and everyone has their own characteristics.

When a person uses this philosophical principle, it’s easy to see his/her way of thinking and his/her actions. As many coaches use this principle, they try to set up a unique service for each person and each person evolves at his/her own pace.

It’s not a problem to use this principle but there are disadvantages. These people find no interest in methods that work for most people. For example, the McDonald’s method or school systems work in a universal way.

You have to realize that as a human being, there is a lot of common ground between us. There is 1% difference in our DNA compared to the DNA of a chimpanzee. So you see that the difference in genetics between several human beings is extremely ridiculous.

2 human beings coming from distant countries like a person from Botswana and a person from Norway have much more genetically in common than between a human being and a chimpanzee. All human beings all have a head, a body, hands, feet and we all have the ability to speak a language. It’s true that the language is different because it comes from culture but at the base, we all have the programming necessary to learn it.

When we understand that, we can see that there is a huge part of things that human beings have in common and that comes from DNA. DNA is a material like a hardware (computer, smartphone) and culture is like a software. Culture is the element that allows us to have different behaviors.

In the book « Influence : Science and Practice » by Robert Cialdini , he shows us several influencing factors that make people more likely to believe you, to listen to you when you ask them to do something. These factors are universal among all cultures. Cultures will just change the importance of certain things over others compared to other cultures.

Universal and unique

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Be careful not to let yourself be trapped in this principle. Yes, we’re all unique because we need to have things that correspond only to us. But there are methods that work for 99% of people. You can use a method that works for 99% of people and then customized products or services for people who want it.

You can meet coaches who use 100% this principle that everyone is unique and he often asks you the question : « Wait, you communicate to thousands of prospects and clients, how do you can do because each person is unique, etc ».

These coaches are right and wrong at the same time. It’s obvious that a customized product or a customized service so more effective, but if you can create a standard product or standard service, you can help 100 000 times more people.

For me, it’s necessary to use the 2 principles. You make a standard product or standard service and you make a customized product or a customized service for the people who ask it. With these 2 principles combined, you can really grow your business to build a legacy.

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-Steph

Non Constructive Criticism

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I watched an Olivier Roland’s video  and I learned good stuff.

These are comments that published regularly on social media. What is the difference between non-constructive criticism and constructive criticism ? Ask yourself this question : « Does this criticism have the will to help me ? ». If you don’t feel the will to help you, it’s like 95% of critics, it’s someone who criticizes just to criticize. These non-constructive criticisms based on an extremely superficial analysis of your content.

These people read the first 5 lines of an article, listen to the first 2 minutes of a podcast, watch the 2 first minutes of a video or read only the title.

When you publish content on internet, you’ll have people who will afford advice on what you do when they haven’t taken time to really understand, to analyze what you mean. It’s known that in communication there is an huge loss of the message’s meaning between what you mean, what you say, what people hear, what people understand and what people remember.

There is also an important factor is that in all areas, beginners have an opinion on everything and they say it. Does this give them a false sense of competence on topics they don’t master ? Yes, it’s ego on my opinion.

To be honest, it has happend to me to comment on something that I didn’t take time to analyze deeply. I gave my opinion based on an extremely superficial analysis and we all have already do it. Just understand that this is a normal human behavior and that it’s not a problem.

Attention, it’s not necesssary to remove these comments because they will never disappear. The goal is to reach enough people who understand your message and practice your advice.

1000 real fans

1000 fans

To succeed on internet, you only need to have 1000 real fans. It means people who understand what you say, who agree with what you say, who like your content, who share and who buy your products. You can have 1 million people who hate you, if you have 1000 real fans, that’s enough.

Many people are afraid of negative comments and that’s a shame. Imagine yourself in 10 years. You talk to a person and you explain to him/her that 10 years ago, you had a blog, a podcast or a Youtube channel and that you stopped it because of a negative comment that touched you. Think about that, do you realize how ridiculous it is ? So continue to create content on internet.

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-Steph

The Only Thing To Be Successful In the Long Term

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I read a Nerd Fitness article  and I learned good stuff.

Sir Winston Churchill said : « Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm ».

I’m sure you’ve heard this quote . But there’s something that nobody told you about that quote. This thing is the « GRIT ».

What’s this

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The meaning of the word « grit » is : « passion and perseverance for a long-term goal ».

We discovered after several years of case studies that intelligence wasn’t the most important element to have success in school, at work and in life.

The most important element to be successful is grit and personality. It’s essential to have the courage to go through all the challenges and failures to find a new solution to achieve the goal.

Psychology Professor at University Of Pennsylvania, Angela Duckworth shows in her studies that   :

« Smarter students actually had less grip that their peers who scored lower on an intelligence test. This finding suggests that, among the study participants – all students at an Ivy League School – people who are not as bring as their peers compensate by working harder and with more determination. And their effort pays off : The grittiest students – not the smartest ones – had the highest GPAs ».

And  :

« At the elite United States Military Academy, West Point, a cadet’s grit score was the best predictor of success in the rigorous summer training program known as « Beast Barracks ». Grit matter more than intelligence, leadership ability or physical fitness.

At the Scripps National Spelling Bee, the grittiest contestants were the most likely to advance to the finals – at least in part because they studied longer, not because they were smarter or were better spellers ».

These findings suggest that the achievement of difficult goals entails not only talent but also the sustained and focused application of talent over time.

There is also this article by Thomas Friedman in New York Times: Need a job ? Invent one .

In this article, there is a quote from Tony Wagner, Harvard Education Specialist : « Today, because knowledge is available on every Internet-connected device, what you know matters far less than what you can do with what you know ».

As you can see, it’s not the amount of information that is important to be successful but what you do with this information. It’s the same principle to have a healthy body. I know people who know a tremendous amount of information about how to lose weight and how to build muscle. But there is a problem, they’re all overweight and from year to year, they take on more weight and they need to take more medicines.

What is necessary is to use the information that you have every day. It’s useless to know all the answers and look for the perfect workout. Start with what you have now and day after day, you’ll improve your knowledge on the field.

How do I do

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Here is my case. As you already know, I plan my workout program throughout the year to gradually increase the difficulty (periodization). I have failures (very often) and I adjust. Every week I search for small changes and tactics.

Tracking my workout helps me tremendously to adjust the difficulty without creating any injury. I use an application on my smartphone to track my workout, it’s Jefit.

I know that all my life is going to be like that. Learn more, have more failures and find new tactics to progress.

It’s true that says it like that, you think it’s boring but it’s very motivating to see progress made week after week. Small details are important to your body. Often the people around you don’t see you making progress. They don’t see that your body is changing but you know you have more strength and better health.

What looked annoying is actually motivating. I like to see small changes on my body because I know that the accumulation of small changes make a great transformation. It’s the same principle as a video game, the main character is gradually becoming stronger and stronger.

When I look my workout’s tracking over several months or several years, I see that I have done great transformation. The amount of weight lifted has increased and my endurance has increased.

When I check my workout’program of the day, I stop to day to myself : « It’s going to be painful today, oh no ! » but « Mmmh, it’s going to have a little new record today ! ».

That is why I began to « document » the evolution of my body. If you watch my videos every day, you’ll not see any difference but when you watch the videos I made 6 months or 1 year ago, you see that the differences are really visible. And it’s the same for you.

Build the grit

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For several years I had several (one ton) failures and I searched to find small changes and new tactics to change my body little by little, week after week. I did all that to create « my new standard » and « my new identity » to have the best possible future in my life. All these small improvements on my body have developing more grit and perseverance.

Here is how to build your grit yourself :

  1. Determine your new « identity ».

    The more specific your new identity, the easier it will be to prove it to yourself. For example : « I’m the type of person who never miss a workout » and « I’m the type of person who always eats a healthy meal at lunch » and/or « I’m the type of person who works on his own business as soon as I have free time ».

    To always have these identities in mind put post-it in several places in your house like on the calendar, the phone and the mirror of your bathroom. You can also have it in the wallpaper (lock screen) on your smartphone.

  2. Have small victories every day to prove it to yourself and motivate you to do that

    Follow your evolution and highlight your small victories to see that you are in the right direction. Make a daily challenge that takes you between 5 and 15 minutes. Once this challenge is successful, it’s a small victory in addition.

  3. Increases the difficulty of your challenges every 30 days

    For a month, for 30 days, you’ll have small victories. Once you have 30 small victories, make a party to celebrate these victories and increase the difficulty of your challenges for the next 30 days.

    Attention, our will’s strength is limited so use all this will to build this new healthy habit.

  4. When you have created you « new standard », it’s time to improve it.

    Improve your « new standard » by making small adjustments. Make slow and steady progress to win. If you make drastic adjustments, you will have more failures than small victories and this will make you want to give up.

  5. When you fail in something , be sure to fail differently next time

    Failure doesn’t mean that you have a bad or a weak personality. It’s just mean that you didn’t have all the knowledge and experience to succeed. Learn and practice more on the field to continue towards the best.

It’s not important where you’re from, where you’re going that’s important.

I warn you already that this a path with more that 1 billion challenges but it’s the price to pay for a better lifestyle. To achieve the lifestyle of your dreams , you will create 1 billion versions of yourself, all better than the previous ones (it’s like an update).

The most important thing is that you shouldn’t let anyone tell you that you can’t accomplish anything in you life (this also includes you parents).

If you know you can do it, do it !

What is the little victory you have recently made, and what the next ?

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-Steph

The Key To Have Success

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I watched an Olivier Roland’s video  and I learned good stuff.

The key of success in any field is something everyone is looking for. I’ve been looking for this and I think you too.

There is a quote to find the key. It’s a quote from Sir William Olser , the father of modern medicine Here is his quote : «  The very first step towards success in any occupation is to become interested in it ».

I think you had the same reaction as me when you read the quote : « Yes, it’s obvious ». Yet if Sir William Olser said that, it was because he noticed that people around him didn’t follow this principle.

Be interested in

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Now look around you. I’m sure that in your friends group, there are people who want to earn more money or be rich ? Are these people really interested in knowing how to earn more money effectively ? In my case, I am the only one.

Oh another thing. I’m sure that in your friends group, there are people who want to be happy ? Are these people really interested in knowing how to be happy effectively ? In my case I am the one.

In my friends group, there are people who want to be happy and rich but that’s just words. And when I tell them what I found they, often, tell me they already knew that. So I ask them : «  What do you know about that ? But why you don’t do it ? ». I don’t explain you the answer, you already know that.

The truth is, if people don’t do something, it’s because they’re not really interested in that . Everyone has different goals.

Long-term investment

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To be really interested, it’s to ask yourself questions, to look for information, to meet people who have reached the goal, to read books that will help you reach the goal, to meet people who have not yet reached the goal but which are in the same movements as you, etc.

Here’s the question I ask you. This question is the first step to your success : « What do you want to accomplish in your life and are you interested enough in it to succeed ? ».

For exemple, if you want to become a successful author, you need to learn. You need to learn and practice regularly and for a long time. You need to read books where successful authors share their advice. You need to follow trainings with successful authors. You need to be part of a group of authors on Facebook, etc. With internet, there is so much resource that you have no excuses. Success is a long-term investment.

Take a few hours on a quiet weekend to really think about what you want to accomplish in your life. Very often, these are things your parents don’t like but if you’re really interested you’ll prove them wrong with your success. Don’t forget, success is a long-term investment.

I have a friend in prison and the last time I saw him, he said to me : «  You know Stephane, the best revenge in life is success ».

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-Steph

Muscle Memory

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I read a Nerd Fitness article  and there is good stuff.

Muscle memory is an action execute with a lot of repetitions physically or mentally. The body will learn to execute this action more effectively using less brain power.

Your muscles don’t have brain but rather your brain learn to create a procedure list to execute tasks as quickly and efficiently as possible. The majority of the time you do these tasks in mode « procedure » of your brain and this become automatic. It’s like cache memory in your computer or smartphone.

When you play at the first time to a video game, you must learn how the controls work (and you’re really bad). You must learn to :

  • Look left and right

  • Use gun/sword

  • Jump and rolling

  • Move, avoid enemies

  • Attack, defend, cast spell

After several hours of gaming, your muscles begin to memorize. After several days or weeks, you do these things effortlessy.

  • Defeat a boss with combos, rolling, attacking, defending and spell casting.

Muscle memory isn’t only for video games. This helps for several things : driving, cut vegetables, play a musical instrument, etc.

When we decide to be healthy in the real life, this concept of « automatic response » is an important element.

Unfortunately, this can have bad effects :

  • If you spend several months to learn badly to do squat, it’s very difficult to stop this bad habit and relearn the squat in the right way.

  • If you learn to play a song in a bad way (or another activity), you learn to your body « it’s the good way to do it », even if it’s the bad way.

  • When you are busy at school/work and take candy and soda to manage stress, you brain will be train to say : »it’s the most effective way to be happy ».

We really talk about to build habit. Muscle memory can help us to understand how and why we failed in the past and how to do to change it

Muscle memory in the life

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We’re creature of habits. The things we do everyday like the way we walk, the way we talk, the way we sleep (or not), things that make us happy or sad are the result of hundred and hundred of repetitions of these activites.

When we try to create new habits, it’s a lot, a lot of work.

For exemple, rather than going to McDonald’s, we must remember of :

  1. Go to the supermarket

  2. Take vegetables and chicken

  3. Go home and prepare vegetables

  4. Cook chicken

  5. Prepare the table

  6. Eat

If you don’t have these habits rooted in your brain, just read this list can be exhausting.

Look this exemple : rather than stay a home to watch the TV, we decided to learn squat :

  • Get under the barbell

  • Tighten the shoulder blades and place the bar correctly on the trapezoids.

  • Inhale deeply and go down

  • Knees lined up with toes

  • Explode back up with proper form

You saw these 2 cases, there is a lot of change !

Automatics things like going to McDonal’s or watch TV, come easy. We’ve always done them and thex require little effort. It’s like a second nature. The second part (new habits) require a lot of amount of effort (don’t worry, you can do it). I tell you, there can have barriers or closed doors the first few times but you must not give up.

After all these repetitions to have healthy habits, I can confirm that train and eat heatlthy is a second nature for me !

How to build

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In the Malcolm Gladwell’s book « Outliers » , he talk about the concept to master. In his research, he found the the most experts spend around 10 0000 hours to master their professions.

The most important is to not to spend 10 000 hours to practice. It’s to spend 10 000 hours to do the good practice.

Play the same song on piano in the wrong way during 10 000 hours will only allow you to play with eyes closed this song in the wrong way.

Work actively on your technique with a coach or a teacher to focus on imporving all aspects of playing the piano.

To build this muscle memory in our life, we don’t need to spend 10 000 hours of practice living healthy but we need to practice. Without do regulary a healthy activity, you will never feel your new healthy activity like a second nature.

You need to :

  • Take one or two new habits you want to create. No more !

  • Make things easy to do this activity. Minimize difficulties between you and this new life activity that you want build. Find a way to complete this activity using the minimum of willpower.

Exemple :

  1. Take one or two new memory : Rather than to completly change your training program to stop to use machine and start to use barbell/dumbbell, change just one exercice. Instead to do Leg Press, do squat. After 3 weeks when you feel good with squat, you can change another exercice.

  2. Minimize difficulties for the new activity : Do you want run every morning ? Sleep with your running clothes, put your alarm clock across the bedroom and put your running shoes next to the alarm clock. You are half ready, right ?

  3. Remove the need to remember what you need to do : I rename the alarm of my smartphone « Meditation ». When I wake up, my smartphone tell me to do my meditation.

  4. Eliminate the need to use the willpower : I spoke of willpower. We all know we need to eat healthy and do more exercice but we don’t do it. Then when we try to rewrite our DNA and our second nature, we must be strategic.

    If you are always tired after school/work and you miss your training, maybe is better to do your training in the morning before to go at school/work ?

    If you struggle with unhealthy foods during stress moments, do a « purge » and throw out unhealthy foods from your house. It’s harder to eat junk foods when you must go out to buy one.

    If you struggle to stop to pick foods from fast foods before you go home, change streets. Choice different streets to go home, streets without fast-foods.

The essence of all that has above is the practice. You train your brain/body as an integer to build healthy automatic habits.

Momentum is a powerful thing : If you can’t do all these healthy habits when you life become crazy. Take one or two healthy habits you can do and continue to practice. By this way, you don’t need to start back at square when your life will return to normal.

What new habits you want build and what tactics you use ?

-Steph

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Your Talent

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I had a chat last night with an old entrepreneur who has retired. He told me his life and give me some advice. I want to share with you what I understood.

You can make mistakes, make mistakes is a good thing. The difference is a wise person learns from his mistakes and a stupid person will repeat the same mistakes again and again. That’s why you have to be careful, you have to be aware of that.

What I mean is that no matter what you chose in your life, be sure to do something that you really want to do, use your talent. Qualify yourself as a person who represents who you are and be passionate about it.

Passion helps to express your talent in the best way with the best quality. If you are good at something and you practice a little bit, you know you’re not very passionate about it and there are people in your city that have the same talent as you and work it every day, study it every day and they will surpass you, you understand. If you are good at some things, practice, dont think that’s acquired and your talent can help to take care of your life.

passion

What do you want to do in your life, you can do it, but be sure it’s somethings that people in the society can benefit, do it. If you are good to make videos game and that it’s beneficial for people of society and that arguments of your « why » are good, go ahead.

For me, it’s fitness I like to help people become stronger mentally, physically and spiritually. Find what you love to do and immerse yourself in, learn all about it. And if there is something you don’t know about it, you know that there are resources to find the correct information and once you found it, give this information to people. You understand when you do that, your passion become your profession.

Focuses you on your passion, on your excellent talent, cultivate it, be passionate about it. More you will be passionate, more you express yourself better with people about it and people will see the purity that you have in. Find what you love to do in your life and your professional career can be something cool, it can be something that you really want to do. Why not ? I have friends who make a lot of money but they don’t like their jobs and it makes them sad.

You have the opportunity to do that ! It’s true, we want to go to the club, to go out with girls but listening what is most important now ! Your idea is to go party now and work hard later. Do the opposite, work hard now when you’re full of energy and go to party later.

opportunity

Being independent is a really good opportunity and don’t be afraid to do something your entourage had never did. Those who take risks, take calculated risks and they become very successful people in their lives. If you want a safe and quiet lifestyle, do it. I don’t want to prevent it, people live well like that. But if you want to be part of successful people, you have to take risks. Nothing spectacular happens when you don’t take risks, you have to trust you at 100%.

I let you meditate with all that and amuses you with your talent !

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-Steph