Why Live With Your Passion

I love my job

I watched an Olivier Roland’s video  and I learned good stuff.

We hear every day that it’s important to do a job that fascinates us. When you do a job that fascinates you , you will never work again but if you don’t do that, you will miss your life and so on. We hear that all the time.

To be passionate

 

 

everyone passionate about something

Now, let’s look at it concretely. Look at the people around you and you don’t need to do a deep analysis. You just have to ask yourself this question : « Are the people I know passionate about the work they do ? ». The answer is : « It’s a tiny minority that does that ». There is often a big gap between theory and practice.

I encourage you to dare to realize your dreams. I encourage you to take baby steps forward everyday to live your dreams. Realizing a dream is not just about being fulfilled. From the moment you do a job that your are passionate about, you have automatically and mechanically by a pure leverage effect, bring more values to the world.

Having the skill is very important and we can have people who aren’t passionate about their work but who are very competent. But between 2 people who have the same skill, it’s always the person who is the most passionate who will succeed to transmit the flame, to make you have sparks on your eyes, to make you dream and maybe to motivate you to do a project that you hesitate to do that will change your life.

It’s this passion that will create maximum leverage on the rest of the world and bring something beautiful, new, artistic. It’s important and we need to do something we’re passionate about. I can even say that it’s a duty for the rest of humanity and I will explain why.

Don’t be passionate

 

 

hate my job

Everyday we see people who are passionate about their work and people who aren’t passionate or who hate their work. When we meet people who aren’t passionate or hate their work, it is felt in each of their gestures, in each of their eyes, in each of their words. Everytime we meet people like that we feel a bit sadness, disappointment and frustration.

These people don’t like their work but the problem is that these people don’t like their work so much that they make us hate this job. We all had teachers at school like that. This teacher who doesn’t like his/her job and perhaps also the subject he/she teaches and the consequence is that the majority of the class hate the job of teacher and the subject he/she teaches (and it’s hard to have a good grade with these teachers). Do you remember those teachers ?

Struggle

 

 

passion struggle fail job

I know that isn’t easy. It’s always difficult for me today but instead of staying with your friends complaining about injustices in your city by drinking alcohol and smoking weed after school or work (yes, I was like that), use this time to take a step towards the realization of your dreams. What’s cool with internet is that we can easily do a lot of things like learning a new skill , get a freelance job online , having a blog, a podcast, a Youtube channel or selling things on Amazon , eBay  or Shopify .

If you hesitate to create your dreams, say to yourself it’s not a question of being happy and being fulfilled. It’s about bringing value to the world, bringing a smile, a spark, an energy to the world.

Share this article if you think it can help someone you know. Thank you.

-Steph

Meet People In Shape

meet people

I read a Nerd Fitness article  and I learned good stuff.

This has been scientifically proven that we look like the 5 friends we see most often. Think about your 5 best friends :

  • Are they successful ?

  • Are they happy ?

  • Are they healthy ?

  • Do they to exercices ?

When you see a friend’s group, they all have about the same state of mind. When a person of this group want to change, it becomes complicated. Once case that has all happened to us is that on the day we decided to work to be healthy, we were the only person in the group to do it.

And when you’re the only person who want to have a better health, it happens :

  • You decrease your consumption of sugar => your friends complain that you’re in a good physical condition and force you to go eat in a fast-food

  • You go to train at lunch => your classmates or co-workers make fun of you because you’re weird and force you to go eat at the best restaurant in the town.

  • You have a new pullup record => your friends complain that you didn’t come to the bar after school/work.

Don’t worry, these situations also happen to me. It’s hard to reach its goals when people around you want you stay like them. But be healthy is one of the best goal in the world and you aren’t the only person to know this pressure.

This is the moment, yes, it’s the moment to meet people who want to be healthy. Be surrounded by people who are healthier, stronger and faster than you is extremely motivating.

How to find people in shape

how to find people

Here are some tips :

  • Google

    Do a search like : « your activity + your town » and see results. It’s easy and effective. You want to do Tai-Chi, Taekwondo or badminton, you’ll find about 20 clubs in your town.

  • MeetUp

    It’s really cool. Do a search of your activity within 4-8km (3-5miles) of your town. You’ll find about twenty clubs. In 5 minutes, you subscribe on MeetUp.com  and you find 20 interesting clubs, easy !

  • Ask a person who is in a good shape that you see regulary

    This can be a classmate or a co-workers or on Facebook. You can start the conversation with : «  Hey, you’re in shape, what’s your secret ? ». This person will tell you his/her sport and his/her days of training.

    You need to do a training session with this person, even if you don’t like his/her sport. Imagine that during the training session you meet a person who share the same interests as you. You would never have met this person if you hadn’t done this new sport, right ? In the beginning, it’s important to say « yes » to have new contacts.

  • Think different

    Don’t be afraid to think differently to do different activities. There are clubs of soccer, dance, ice-hockey, yoga, etc. Chose something that interests you and give a try. If it’s an activity you’ve never done before, it’s even better. How can you know if you like something if you have never tried ? This is exploring, adventure.

Say « YES »

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It’s important to say « yes » to everything when you do a new activity. Let’s me explain, all these activites have events with social media. Say « yes » to participate to these events to meet more people and have new opportunities or discover a new activity that is implanted in.

Now, I’ll tell you the truth. It’s important to say « yes » more often than « no » if you want that people continue to offer you new activities.

Imagie that you offer regularly to 2 of your friends to do new activities. Your 2 friends always answer the same thing and that’s it :

  • Friend A : « Ooooh no, I can’t today. I have a lot of things to do. Maybe another time ».

  • Friend B : « Mmmmmmmh, what is that ? Ok, we go there together of we find ourselves there ? »

After a while you’ll not propose anything to Friend A and you’ll only talk to Friend B. So for yourself, you want to be the Friend A or the Friend B ?

Go to a MeetUp alone

meetup

When you go to a MeetUp arrange you to go with somebody to stay motivated. But be careful, this often prenvents us from having new contacts. If it’s not possible, you need to be prepared to go to a MeetUp alone.

If you don’t usually go to events on your own, there are skills you can learn like confidence and social interaction.

Here a plan to have new conctacts during a MeetUp :

  • Smile

    This is the most crucial thing. Who like to talk to a scared person and who has a closed face ?

  • Don’t look for another person alone

    It’s easier to talk to a person alone than a group but there is a trap. This person is like you and is to shy to talk to someone else and you’ll spend the rest of the time to talk together in a corner without meeting anyone.

  • Make eye contact, give them a firm handshake and introduce yourself

  • Ask «  Are you here for the _______________ MeetUp ? »

    Continue the conversation with : «  Ok, cool. I signed up yesterday and I didn’t know what to expect ».

  • Ase open questions

    « What brought you here ? » or « Where are good places to do this activity in the city ? » or « Why did you start this activity ? »

  • If the conversation starts to be annoying

    Ends the conversation with : « Great to meet you. I’m gonna run to the bathroom/grab a dring ». You do the thing you said and you go to the another group.

Note

In a Meetup, you’re surrounded by people who want to meet people. Don’t do the anti-social and profit to have new contacts. Here a video  and an article  of Ramit Sethi to help to improve social skills.

Proactive

proactive

It’s not with magic or thniking very strongly (Mmmmh, The Secret ?!?) that you’re going to have new activites or meet new people in shape. It’s for this reason you need to do the first step because they are not going to come to seek you, it’s up to you to be the hunter.

It’s worth looking for them because they’ll help you reach your goals, encourage you to be healthier, be stronger and be faster.

Then goes hunting for people in shape

How it went when you joined a new club or met new friends when you decided to be healthier ?

-Steph

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Smartphone apps :

To track my calories, I use MyFitnessPal 

To track my training program, I use Jefit 

Quickly Build Self-Confidence

self-confidence

I read an Nerd Fitness article  and I want to share this with you.

Self-confidence can be quickly build ? This is one of the traits that everyone want to maximize. It’s a huge impact for the first impression.

To be sure that you and me are on the same frequency about confidence :

James Bond – He’s an incredible ability to stay calm and cool under pressure. He’s able to tell you a subtle « punchline » in incredible situations.

Your best female friend – she can initiate a conversation with anyone and become a good friend in minutes.

Your friend that quickly evolves into a company and you have the impression that he has it from birth.

Can we build our confidence or is out of control ?

What’s self-confidence

self-confidence

I’m not speaking of people working for 6-packs or people who follow seductions courses (yes, I did, I admit). These approaches to build self-confidence aren’t complete, they doesn’t create a real solid foundation. If you read the Neil Strauss book « The Game », I advice you « The Truth, an uncomfortable book about relationships ».

The true self-confidence shows to the world who you really are (and it excites you). Think about your friends that changes behavior when they want to try to impress anyone. I know you’ve seen it several times and it’s weird !

It isn’t necessary to change who you are to impress someone, stay who you are and still progressing. We all work for progress, but we also need to respect ourselves. We work every day to self-improvement.

Could you think of what kind of self-confidence you want to build :

  • The quiet confidence of someone who commands respect ?

  • The boisterous person enters in a room and everyone wants to become best friends with ?

  • The lovable goofball that doesn’t take itself too seriously ?

Once we found the kind of self-confidence we want to build, we can apply this following tips.

Moves with confidence

self-confidence pose

Do you know that sitting in a certain way just a few minutes before an appointment or an interview can boost your chances of success ?

This is crazy, right ? This is really serious ! Just by changing your posture, you can psychologically develop more confidence in few minutes. You don’t believe me ? Ok, now uses a posture where you look to have a great self-confidence.

You feel better ? You feel you can do whatever you want ?

That’s non-verbal communication. This is how we stand, how we walk, how we look. Once you understand these things, you can « hack » your body language to increase your self-confidence unconsciously.

There is an Amy Cuddy’s video about this subject .

By having a self-confidence posture before entering a tense situation you’ll unconsciously adjust your brain to respond to this situation.

Here some examples of « great self-confidence » that you can use before an event where you need to have more self-confidence :

  • Hands raised above your head in a victory pose

  • Hands on hips like Superman or Wonder Woman

  • Legs crossed and hands behind head

  • Sprawled out across a seat

Mark the first impression

self-confidence move

Social interactions can be a challenge for some people. Even the most confidence looking person can be a « zero » in social interactions and expects that other people start the conversation.

There are 2 important tips, scientifically proven, that will make you appear more confidence :

Smile – People will respond to the emotion you project. If you project « I’m happy and cool », they will want to be happy unconsciously. The best thing to do to have your brain happy is to start a smile. These studies A  and B demonstrates that. Smiling makes you happier and improves how you think and how you feel about yourself.

Look in the eye – This is a challenge for most people. Do you look the ground when you walk to avoid looking people in the eye ? Or if a person look you in the eye, you turn your head ? Most people do that automatically and shouts « I don’t feel safe ». As you develop your self-confidence, concentrate yourself to keep your eye contact.

An article about eye contact says that studies  have shown that people who had a good level of eye contact (look in the eye) were perceived a being :

  • Most dominant and powerful

  • Warm and friendly

  • More attractive and friendly

  • Most qualified and competent

  • More trustworthy, honest and sincere

  • More confident and emotionally stable

If you have an appointment or an intense conversation with your teacher or your boss, maintaining eye contact is a demonstration of confidence and self-respect.

Test ! While you walk down in the street, keeping eye contact with a stranger. If the stranger looks at you, keeping the eye contact even if your brain tells you the opposite and made a smile briefly and continue your way.

Tell me how was the test and do you have other tips to build your self-confidence ?

-Steph

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I Like Legs Day

skip leg day

Today was the legs day and I like it. There are a few years, the evening before legs day, I wasn’t motivated. It was really the training day that I hated. You know at the gym, when it’s leg day everyone is : « Oooh no, good luck ! ».

When everyone in the gym is in the mood « Legs day is hell », it doesn’t give you the will to do. But when you see people who have a muscular upper body and a skinny lower body, it’s really ugly, it’s not harmonious. On internet you see examples more shocking.

I don’t know about you but I want to have a harmonious body, symmetrical. Having more muscle ? Yes I will, but proportionate with the rest of my body. When summer comes, my friend, it’s merciless ! The world sees better your body because of shorter clothes and when it’s not harmonious, BOOOM ! You didn’t work a lot on your body and it’s your fault.

skip leg day

About me, I saw a girl who lifts more than I squat. Squat is my challenge ! Romanian deadlift is also my challenge ! My challenge is that my legs should be as well as the upper body (ok, ok, beat this girl squat too). You also see people on the street that weren’t have a harmonious body. There are people who don’t train and have a harmonious body and other NO.

What is funny is that I have a program of 4 days and sometimes 2 times in a week, it’s the abs-legs day. Sometimes it’s a different muscle group but for gym people, it’s weird. Now for people I am « Mr. Legs Day ». I smile when I train my legs like my chest, shoulders, biceps, triceps, abs, back, normal. I like to train every part of my body.

You want the truth ? Now in the street, restaurants, shops, I feel people’s eyes. I hear « Wow, he is muscular; Oh my God ; But who is he ? ». The thing that makes me feel still uncomfortable is when I pass a group of people and all girls stare at me. You must see the boys face of the group, it’s mythical each time.

skip leg day

Yet I don’t consider myself like someone really muscular, I can do more. My goal is to have a body type like Men’s Physique. A handsome muscular body, shredded (not like for competitions) and harmonious. Having volume without having a good chest definition doesn’t interest me, I want muscles with a good definition.

Train legs is as important as the rest of the body and cardio. Now it’s your choice, do you want a symmetrical or asymmetrical body, a harmonious or deformed body ?

-Steph