How To Reduce Stress (Part 1)

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I watched an Olivier Roland’s video  and I learned good stuff.

I am doing a synthesis of the Dale Carnegie’s book “How to stop worrying and start living”  and other sources on internet for a blueprint to manages stress in 4 steps.

Stress is about change, it means adapting to the environment of a changing structure. Stress is a feeling triggered by the interpretation of an event. It’s a reaction related to the constraints and the pressure undergone in its environment. Stress can be interpreted as something positive, whether it’s considered a challenge or as something negative, if it’s considered a harmful event.

The truth is that stress is a mistake of reasoning in relation to the attitude or behavior we adopt. This is an answer that isn’t adequate. It’s an alert for mental dysfunction as the body gives us an alert for physical pain. Fortunately, people can learn to control stress in 4 steps : Take a step back and analyze what triggered the stress ; anticipate and visualize ; organize yourself and communicate and turn away or adapt and accept.

1st step – Take a step back and analyze

 

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It’s necessary to step back and analyze what triggered the stress. Because before trying to solve that, it’s important to know what caused it. By analyzing what caused the stress, we can avoid certain consequences.

To do that, here’s what you can do :

  • Make a list of sources of annoyance that you have in your family, friends, school, work, transportation, etc. Once you have found them, classify them from the most impacting to the least impacting. You can also do a 20/80 analysis, that means identify the 20% of the sources that bring you 80% of your stress.

  • Ask yourself these questions : « What is the problem ? What is the cause of this stress in these sources ? What are the most serious consequences that I suffer of my experience ? »

  • Understand the emotion that created in these moments. Then check if it’s a real fear or rather a theoretical concern that doesn’t have much to happen in your life.

If a situation is truly unavoidable, you need to prepare yourself to accept it. We must give up the impossible because it’s extremely stressful to have no way to change a situation. To avoid this, you need to anticipate situations that may lead you into an impasse. Once these situations identified, you must try to really avoid them or change the course of things from the start.

It’s impossible to keep control of all things in your life. It’s useless to set inaccessible goals.

2nd step – anticipate and visualize

 

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The best way to handle stress is to anticipate. Based on the list you made in the first step (source of stress), imagine solutions and possible answers. Ask yourself these questions : « Why did you agree to be in this situation ? ». If what you do make sense, it limits the stress.

Decide how you want to live a situation. An event that happens to you can have not effect on you until you choose words to qualify it. If you say that an event is happy, boring, sad or extraordinary, it can become so. By qualifying the event, you modify the perception that you have of this event.

The way you see the event determines your body’s reaction. So take a moment to think before judging and classyfying a situation as negative.

Take Olivier Roland’s example. When Olivier Roland began to meditate, his neighbor’s dog was barking. At first it disturbed Olivier to focus on his breathing, it was stressful and annoying. After a while, Olivier realized that it wasn’t the barking dog that was stressful, it was Olivier’s interpretation of the situation. From the moment that Olivier decided that the barking dog was something neutral or positive, he began to appreciate when the dog barks. It’s a sign of life.

Imagination can be used to help fight stress. Get in shape before a stressful event. You can create a positive state of mind when an event is negative. Think of something positive like music, a holiday, projects in progress. Visualize a happy moment, a happy memory.

This the end of Part 1. In the 2nd Part, I talk about organize yourself and communicate and turn away or adapt and accept.

Share this article if you think it can help someone you know. Thank you.

-Steph

Good Use Of Book Information

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I watched an Olivier Roland’s video  and I learned good stuff.

I bought a lot of books to learn new skills but sincerely, there is little that I have put in place concretely in my life. I took notes, made summaries but it was alwys theoretical.

Here another way to take notes. It has nothing to do with taking the maximum information from the book but rather taking as much information as possible to use it effectively in our lives as quickly as possible.

That things be clear, I don’t talk about science fiction books but practical books that teach us to have a new skill.

A pratical book allows us to take action more effectively than if we hadn’t read the book.

Of course by reading we’ll take notes but we’ll not take notes like at school. We’ll highlight actions we can put in place today in our lives.

Study Case

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At this momet I’m reading a book about Tai-Chi. I’m learning to meditate and for years I have been pacticing martial arts so Tai-Chi is perfect for me. Each time that I see an action that I can use today in my life, I put the infomation in highlight. I put this information in uppercase, bold, underlined or in a different color. By this way I’ll read my notes later, this information will jump to my eyes.

We can take notes to have theoretical knowledge, there is no problem.

Once we’ll finish the book when we’ll read back our notes, we can immediately see actions we can use in our lives. The concepts is to choose actions that are the simplest and the fastest to set up in our lives.

Baby step

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The best strategy to start is to take only one action. This action is the most interesting and the easiest to set up in your life.

The problem that we have to use book’s information, it’s that we are too ambitious in the first step. We want realize great things in the first step so we don’t have the experience yet.

To avoid falling into this trap and be disappointed, imagine that your evolution is like baby steps. Choose an interesting and easy action to set up in your life today. It’s today that your work on it and not tomorrow or after tomorrow. By this way, you can immdiately adjust this action to improve it step by step.

What is the most ambitious action you wanted to do right after reading a book ?

-Steph

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