Improve Without Stress

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What’s up ? This is THE stephane ANDRE !!! I watched an Olivier Roland’s video  and I learned some good stuff.

I think that’s already happened to you. Do you put so much pressure on yourself to reach a goal that you fail ? And that’s very frustrating when we do personal development. When we put too much pressure on ourselves, we have negative effects. The goal of personal development is to become a better version of ourselves by being happier throughout our lives.

There is a very instructive story between Buddha and one of his disciple. This disciple asks to Buddha this question : « When I meditate, sometimes I put to much pressure on myself and it doesn’t work, I’m too stressed. And sometimes when I don’t put this pressure on myself, I’m not focus enough and I’m almost sleeping. What should I do ? ». Here is Buddha’s answer : « To practice meditation, you have to be like a zither rope. So that the rope make the right note, it must be neither too tight nor too relaxed, it must be exactly in the right range. It’s the same for meditation, you have to be neither too tense nor too relaxed to meditate in the most efficient way ».

Middle

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It’s funny because it’s the same principle with the guided meditation of Headspace . In several guided meditations, at a certain point, the person leading the meditation says : « From now on, you can let your mind do what it wants ». This allows you to relax yourself , to decompress to better concentrate later. But be careful, as Buddha said, if you don’t put pressure on yourself at all, you fall into the opposite extreme of laziness, lack of attention, and etc.

The answer is balance. It’s not easy to find the balance, but it’s very exciting to explore and experiment with it. Because it’s part of this trip that makes us better people.

It’s up to you experiment between : I’m too relaxed and I’m too stress. Seek the moment you progress to reach your goals and also where you enjoy life. Whenever you find the perfect tension, you’ll produce the perfect note.

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-Steph

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Find The Gym For Your Goals (Part 1)

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I read a Nerd Fitness article  and I learned good stuff.

The gym can become an important part in your life. For this reason is important to choose your gym well otherwise you will become bitter.

It’s not necessary to train in a gym to gain strength or to have a good physical condition. You can do a bodyweight workout program at home (bedroom, garage or basement).

But if you really want an athletic body, you need to have equipment like barbells or dumbbells. It’s possible that you don’t have place or resources to create your home gym (like me), so the best option is to have a gym membership.

Discover really what you want

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Don’t do the mistake to have a gym membership in the closest gym to your home. Think about your goals.

Make a list of things you need in a gym and make the difference between « must have » and « would be nice to haves ».

Equipment

I wrote an article in 2 parts about this topic (click here link ). Imagine you have a workout program based on barbell, you need to check this :

  • Olympic barbell

  • Power rack (or at least a squat rack)

  • Dumbells up to 45-68kg (100-150lbs) or heavier if you want to do a dumbell training over barbell

  • Pullup bar/Dip station

  • Flat bench with racks for the bench press

Classes

Gyms offer free classes for their members like kickboxing, dance fitness, stationary bike or yoga. This is helpful for beginners, don’t hesitate to try one.

Amenities

Some gyms offer good anemities like child care, a zone only for women ( my sister came one time in my gym and she said that men stared at her too much) or dry cleaning.

An environment to be focus

For me the gym has an important part in my day. When I train at home, I know I’ll be bothered by my rommates. I find it easier to concentrate when I’m at the gym with my headphones. When I’m at the gym it’s « my time » to me, I’m in my bubble. Everything about home, school, work doesn’t exist. The only thing is important is my workout.

Coach

Gyms have coaches available to help you improve your technique or workout program. From time to time it’s pratical.

Rules

A « must have » rule can be you can bring your childen at gym. I don’t have children but it looks cool for people who have children. Some gyms don’t allow to do deadlift and have vibram  so check if rules match with what you want to do.

A gym membership can be a long-term commitment so look at these points :

  • If you do a workout program based on dumbbells like me, be sure that dumbbells up to 45-68kg (100-150lbs) or heavier

  • If you think you’ll do the Olympic lift, look for bumper plates and a gym that lets you drop the weight.

  • If you think you’ll try kickboxing or yoga later, check that the gym has this type of classes.

Budget

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During my travels, I saw gym membership between $9.- and $365.- per month. In Europe, it’s on average EUR 50.- per month but it depends on the area where you live and the amenities offered.

It’s useless to take the most expensive price thinking that you’ll have everything you need in the gym (I already did this mistake). It’s for this reason I’m writing this article to help you to find the best gym at the best price according to your need.

Also think of the usual thing like the towel. Imagine you go to a gym that offer a towel’s service. You know it and you think it’s great, you don’t nee to bring your towel. One day, you go to train at the gym at lunch and the staff tell you that there is no more towels available. It’s annoying.

Apart from the equipement, there are services that are important to know if the gym offer them or not :

Events offer or trips with discounts. Imagine that the gym organizes a hiking trip and member pay only 20.-. I agree, it’s not an incredible discount but during the hiking trip you’ll able to meet people who work to improve their health like you.

A child care service during your workouts. It’s possible that you have to pay an extra of $20.- or $30.- per month. I don’t have children but it looks pratical.

Free classes including yoga that is great for relaxing muscles. I prefer Tai-Chi but there is no this class in gyms.

Location and hours

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Having a gym that is close to your house and your school/workplace is an interesting place.

By exemple, if you gym is close of your school/workplace, it’s cool. But the problem is that if you school/workplace is at a distance of 1 hour from you home, you’ll never train on weekends.

There is something I forgot to tell you in gym’s rules. There are gyms that close at 23h (11pm) and I know some gyms don’t allow their members to start their workout after 22:15 (10:15pm). If you work late in the night or during the night, it’s better to look for a gym open 24/7.

It’s important to choose a gym according to your willpower :

  • Imagine you want to train before you go to school/workplace. You do it because you want to train immediately to avoid not training all day or because when you wake up, you’re groggy and train give you energy for the whole day ?

  • Imagine you want to train after your school/workplace. You do it because you don’t have time to train during the day ? Be carefull because if you’re the type of person who is very tired after school/workplacle, you’ll find excuses to cancel your training. I meet everyday people like this.

An ideal location is to find a gym located between your home and your school/workplace. If you can do this, you’ll save time and money. I can’t do that but it’s really effective.

Note : It’s better to pay a little bit more for a gym that you use several times a week than pay less for a gym that you use from time to time. Don’t be fancy.

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P.S. To read the Part 2, click here .

-Steph

The Mistake Of Learning From Mistakes

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I watched an Olivier Roland’s video  and I learned good stuff.

It’s true that learn from your mistakes is a good method to improve yourself but you can do a huge mistake by doing this. Let me explain to you, the huge mistake is to only learn from your own mistakes. Look the world, we’re billions and there are billions of people who lives before us. As everyone makes mistakes, learning from mistakes of others is also a good strategy.

Mistakes of others

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Look mistakes from people who are in the domain where you want progress allow you to save time and money. I think we know it but we forget to do it quickly. It’s important to have a strategy to learn from mistakes of others to progress.

I tell you the truth, I also made this mistake several times. Sometimes I noticed that I had a talent and I was alone in solo thinking that I was smart enough to succeed. I thought I didn’t need professors, books, etc. It’s an ego trip, it’s the best method to waste time and almost guarantee failure. Yes, I know there are exceptions, some people happen to be successful in being solitary wolves but it’s clear that they lose a lot of time.

No matter where you want to succeed, there is a golden rule. You need master the basics ! Once you master the basics, you can be creative but not before.

You can try to be creative before master the basics and in 90 % of the cases you’ll fail, it’s true. Look at people who are successful, people who are creative, they were all newbies and they all learned the basics.

Example

Looks at the creative chefs who have restaurants with 3 stars in the Michelin guide. Do you think at the first day in kitchen, they said to themselves : « Go, I make a crazy recipe ? ». No, they learned to cook rice, pasta and they had to learn the basics like everyone else.

There is a company very creative that is Cirque Du Soleil  that reinvented the show. You notice that there is a lot of circus inspiration and other domains. It looks very similar to fusion restaurants. You know this concept where you take the best recipes from 2 countries and you make a mix of 2 to make a menu.

Learn form mistakes of others

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First

The simplest method is to read the biography from people who are successful in the field where you evolve. You’ll learn a lot of things, you’ll see that they strarted from nothing and sometimes they made incredible mistakes. Reading biographies helps you avoid making these mistakes.

Second

Be in touch with people who are successful in your field. Don’t absolutely look for people who are at the level where you would like to be, communicate with people who are better than you. Ask them what are the classic mistakes that beginners make.

Put in place a stratregy to know mistakes of others and solutions they used to move forward. You’ll see, this will save you from unnecessary stress.

Attention is a thing to do in addition to attend trainings, see tutorials in video,etc.

What I mean is not be a lone wolf. Connect you, inform you, be curious, attends trainings and find mistakes that you must not make before you make them.

-Steph

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