How To Reduce Stress (Part 2)

stress

I watched an Olivier Roland’s video  and I learned good stuff.

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3rd step – organize yourself and communicate

organize yourself

 

Organize

Managing your schedule helps limit stress and to do that, here’s what you can do :

  • Prevent an additional 10 to 20 minutes on your travel times.

  • Make a list of priority tasks to do and not to do.

  • Identify bad habits, tasks to eliminate and tasks to delegate.

  • Automatize a maximum of tasks.

  • Focus on taks that immediately bring visible results

  • Avoid to scatter you.

  • Stop these time consuming habits like reading your emails as soon as they arrive of watching your smartphone as soon as there is a notification. Tamagochi  is a toy, not a lifestyle.

  • Do things in their time. Each task, even minimum, must be completed before moving on the next one. This method allows you to improve your concentration and the satisfaction of having completed a task is very motivating.

  • Pause during the day and cultivate your patience. In a situation where you have to wait, take the time to relax instead of sighing and complaining. For example in a queue for a counter, use that : Wait = relax and breathe deeply. Concentrate on yourself in a positive way and on the present moment.

Communicate

  • Stress is often born from the fact that we don’t know what our interlocutors expect from us. We can’t read people’s minds, so don’t hesitate to ask clearly what people expect of you. Dare to ask questions and create a direct communication. Banish your ego and think that you aren’t absolutely right. You can also avoid sensitive topics.

  • Say « no ». If you can’t render a service someone asks you because you have no time or no resources or you don’t want to take additional responsibilities, then explain that to your interlocutor. Your interlocutors will understand the situation and you will find an arrangement. It’s better to say « no » from the start than to force yourself to keep your commitments. With this attitude, you will avoid being overwhelmed.

4th step – turn away or adapt and accept

 

turn away

 

accept

 

  • Avoid the trigger elements of stress. Limit your contact with people who stress you. Be aware of your environment and control that. For example, use an alternative road to avoid traffic jams. Turn off TV to avoid listening to information that makes you anxious. If you did the analysis of 20% of sources that bring you 80% your stress, you know the people that you must see the minimum or eliminate them from your contacts.

  • Adjust yourself by being willing to compromise. Be assertive by adapting your requirements and avoiding perfectionism.

  • Reframe conflicts by analyzing the problem in a positive way. Look at good things and find benefits of the situation. Focus on positive elements.

  • Accept the trigger of stress and admit that you can’t control everything.

  • Looking for opportunities to improve yourself. Concentrate on what this stressful situation can teach you. Follow the principle of this quote : « What doesn’t kill you , make you stronger » and ask yourself these questions : « How can I get better with this experience ? What did I learn ? ».

  • Forgive. Accept that others make mistakes (because you also make mistakes) and try to evacuate any feeling of anger. When you free yourself from all this negative energy, it’s easy to resume your projects.

In summary « The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another » as William James said.

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The Key To Have Success

key of success

I watched an Olivier Roland’s video  and I learned good stuff.

The key of success in any field is something everyone is looking for. I’ve been looking for this and I think you too.

There is a quote to find the key. It’s a quote from Sir William Olser , the father of modern medicine Here is his quote : «  The very first step towards success in any occupation is to become interested in it ».

I think you had the same reaction as me when you read the quote : « Yes, it’s obvious ». Yet if Sir William Olser said that, it was because he noticed that people around him didn’t follow this principle.

Be interested in

be interested in

Now look around you. I’m sure that in your friends group, there are people who want to earn more money or be rich ? Are these people really interested in knowing how to earn more money effectively ? In my case, I am the only one.

Oh another thing. I’m sure that in your friends group, there are people who want to be happy ? Are these people really interested in knowing how to be happy effectively ? In my case I am the one.

In my friends group, there are people who want to be happy and rich but that’s just words. And when I tell them what I found they, often, tell me they already knew that. So I ask them : «  What do you know about that ? But why you don’t do it ? ». I don’t explain you the answer, you already know that.

The truth is, if people don’t do something, it’s because they’re not really interested in that . Everyone has different goals.

Long-term investment

long-tern investment

To be really interested, it’s to ask yourself questions, to look for information, to meet people who have reached the goal, to read books that will help you reach the goal, to meet people who have not yet reached the goal but which are in the same movements as you, etc.

Here’s the question I ask you. This question is the first step to your success : « What do you want to accomplish in your life and are you interested enough in it to succeed ? ».

For exemple, if you want to become a successful author, you need to learn. You need to learn and practice regularly and for a long time. You need to read books where successful authors share their advice. You need to follow trainings with successful authors. You need to be part of a group of authors on Facebook, etc. With internet, there is so much resource that you have no excuses. Success is a long-term investment.

Take a few hours on a quiet weekend to really think about what you want to accomplish in your life. Very often, these are things your parents don’t like but if you’re really interested you’ll prove them wrong with your success. Don’t forget, success is a long-term investment.

I have a friend in prison and the last time I saw him, he said to me : «  You know Stephane, the best revenge in life is success ».

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-Steph