Have The Chance That You Deserve

chance

What’s up ? This is THE stephane ANDRE !!! I watched an Olivier Roland’s video  and I learned some good stuff.

We’re lucky that we deserve. It’s true that there a bit of luck in everyone’s success. If I take my case, I recognize that I was lucky to be born in an industrialized country with internet and a good education. But I also created some of the luck that allows me to have my lifestyle today.

We aren’t all born under the same star or not with the same cards, that we can’t change. The thing we can do is to do with what we have to get something better. Having this state of mind is essential to having a better lifestyle. It’s important to be proactive. Whatever the bad luck or the handicap, you have the possibility to realize your dreams. It will be harder than other people but it’s possible with perseverance and patience.

Made with what you have

use what you got to have what you want

Here’s what you have to say to yourself : « My dream is that, maybe I’m not very lucky to succeed and maybe people will think I’m crazy, but I’m going to try to do something. I’m not going to do like the majority of people, I’m going to act, I’m going to do different and do interesting things ».

The truth is that the greatest craziness is to believe that by always doing the same thing, we will have different results. By always doing the same thing, we always have the same results. If you think you deserve better than that in your life, change your comfort, change your actions.

Seneca says something interesting in « Moral Letter to Lucilius ». He talks about people who commit suicide. He says it’s a paradox. It’s a paradox to give up life. What Seneca means is that it’s more constructive to try to change the actions that led to the results of being disgusted with life rather than leaving life.

It’s true that there are also elements that are outside our control or elements like psychology, depression, but whatever your despair, you can choose to change your actions to have another result. I will not lie to you, it will not be easy and it will not happen overnight. The main thing is that you have to try new things, experiment new things, get out of your comfort zone. It’s like this quote : « It’s when we walk that we risk failing ».

Go to another world

comfort zone

The majority of people are in a frozen environment. They’ve been doing the same things for years, they’ve been thinking the same way for years and their lifestyle is stagnating. Get out of this environment to experiment other things and meet people who think differently but share the same values as you. It’s these types of people that will motivate you to do things you never thought you’d do.

When you dream of something, it always seems impossible to you. Publish a book, start a company, change job because it’s frustrating, all that, you feel like it’s outside of your world. It’s true that it’s outside of your world but you have the possibility of making it a reality. Look, imagine that you are on the beach and you have to go to the mountain but you don’t know the way. The majority of people will stay on the beach because it’s more comfortable and safer.

It’s true that it’s safer to stay on the beach but over time, it becomes boring. The best plan is to go towards the mountain and on the way, you will find the first step. At this point, you can ask how to go to the second stage. At the second stage, you can ask how to go to the third stage, etc. In this way, gradually, you reach the mountain learning a lot of new things.

To start a company, it’s the same plan. You find an idea. Then you write a 2-3 pages project that explains how this idea can become a company. Then you look for how to finance this company. Then you create a product or service and you contact prospects, etc. It’s obvious that when you start these projects, you don’t really know the stages. Do this plan now with the knowledge you have, this will allow you to demystify the process and find the first stage.

We must stop dwelling. You have goals, you have frustrations, you want to do things to improve your lifestyle, run the plan. Go to the first stage and get information for the next stage. There is never a perfect time to start (that’s an excuse to procrastinate). You have to start imperfectly and do it anyway. It’s the only way to get the chance you deserve.

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-Steph

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Meet People In Shape

meet people

I read a Nerd Fitness article  and I learned good stuff.

This has been scientifically proven that we look like the 5 friends we see most often. Think about your 5 best friends :

  • Are they successful ?

  • Are they happy ?

  • Are they healthy ?

  • Do they to exercices ?

When you see a friend’s group, they all have about the same state of mind. When a person of this group want to change, it becomes complicated. Once case that has all happened to us is that on the day we decided to work to be healthy, we were the only person in the group to do it.

And when you’re the only person who want to have a better health, it happens :

  • You decrease your consumption of sugar => your friends complain that you’re in a good physical condition and force you to go eat in a fast-food

  • You go to train at lunch => your classmates or co-workers make fun of you because you’re weird and force you to go eat at the best restaurant in the town.

  • You have a new pullup record => your friends complain that you didn’t come to the bar after school/work.

Don’t worry, these situations also happen to me. It’s hard to reach its goals when people around you want you stay like them. But be healthy is one of the best goal in the world and you aren’t the only person to know this pressure.

This is the moment, yes, it’s the moment to meet people who want to be healthy. Be surrounded by people who are healthier, stronger and faster than you is extremely motivating.

How to find people in shape

how to find people

Here are some tips :

  • Google

    Do a search like : « your activity + your town » and see results. It’s easy and effective. You want to do Tai-Chi, Taekwondo or badminton, you’ll find about 20 clubs in your town.

  • MeetUp

    It’s really cool. Do a search of your activity within 4-8km (3-5miles) of your town. You’ll find about twenty clubs. In 5 minutes, you subscribe on MeetUp.com  and you find 20 interesting clubs, easy !

  • Ask a person who is in a good shape that you see regulary

    This can be a classmate or a co-workers or on Facebook. You can start the conversation with : «  Hey, you’re in shape, what’s your secret ? ». This person will tell you his/her sport and his/her days of training.

    You need to do a training session with this person, even if you don’t like his/her sport. Imagine that during the training session you meet a person who share the same interests as you. You would never have met this person if you hadn’t done this new sport, right ? In the beginning, it’s important to say « yes » to have new contacts.

  • Think different

    Don’t be afraid to think differently to do different activities. There are clubs of soccer, dance, ice-hockey, yoga, etc. Chose something that interests you and give a try. If it’s an activity you’ve never done before, it’s even better. How can you know if you like something if you have never tried ? This is exploring, adventure.

Say « YES »

say yes

It’s important to say « yes » to everything when you do a new activity. Let’s me explain, all these activites have events with social media. Say « yes » to participate to these events to meet more people and have new opportunities or discover a new activity that is implanted in.

Now, I’ll tell you the truth. It’s important to say « yes » more often than « no » if you want that people continue to offer you new activities.

Imagie that you offer regularly to 2 of your friends to do new activities. Your 2 friends always answer the same thing and that’s it :

  • Friend A : « Ooooh no, I can’t today. I have a lot of things to do. Maybe another time ».

  • Friend B : « Mmmmmmmh, what is that ? Ok, we go there together of we find ourselves there ? »

After a while you’ll not propose anything to Friend A and you’ll only talk to Friend B. So for yourself, you want to be the Friend A or the Friend B ?

Go to a MeetUp alone

meetup

When you go to a MeetUp arrange you to go with somebody to stay motivated. But be careful, this often prenvents us from having new contacts. If it’s not possible, you need to be prepared to go to a MeetUp alone.

If you don’t usually go to events on your own, there are skills you can learn like confidence and social interaction.

Here a plan to have new conctacts during a MeetUp :

  • Smile

    This is the most crucial thing. Who like to talk to a scared person and who has a closed face ?

  • Don’t look for another person alone

    It’s easier to talk to a person alone than a group but there is a trap. This person is like you and is to shy to talk to someone else and you’ll spend the rest of the time to talk together in a corner without meeting anyone.

  • Make eye contact, give them a firm handshake and introduce yourself

  • Ask «  Are you here for the _______________ MeetUp ? »

    Continue the conversation with : «  Ok, cool. I signed up yesterday and I didn’t know what to expect ».

  • Ase open questions

    « What brought you here ? » or « Where are good places to do this activity in the city ? » or « Why did you start this activity ? »

  • If the conversation starts to be annoying

    Ends the conversation with : « Great to meet you. I’m gonna run to the bathroom/grab a dring ». You do the thing you said and you go to the another group.

Note

In a Meetup, you’re surrounded by people who want to meet people. Don’t do the anti-social and profit to have new contacts. Here a video  and an article  of Ramit Sethi to help to improve social skills.

Proactive

proactive

It’s not with magic or thniking very strongly (Mmmmh, The Secret ?!?) that you’re going to have new activites or meet new people in shape. It’s for this reason you need to do the first step because they are not going to come to seek you, it’s up to you to be the hunter.

It’s worth looking for them because they’ll help you reach your goals, encourage you to be healthier, be stronger and be faster.

Then goes hunting for people in shape

How it went when you joined a new club or met new friends when you decided to be healthier ?

-Steph

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Smartphone apps :

To track my calories, I use MyFitnessPal 

To track my training program, I use Jefit