How To Reduce Stress (Part 2)

stress

I watched an Olivier Roland’s video  and I learned good stuff.

If you didn’t read Part 1, click here

3rd step – organize yourself and communicate

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Organize

Managing your schedule helps limit stress and to do that, here’s what you can do :

  • Prevent an additional 10 to 20 minutes on your travel times.

  • Make a list of priority tasks to do and not to do.

  • Identify bad habits, tasks to eliminate and tasks to delegate.

  • Automatize a maximum of tasks.

  • Focus on taks that immediately bring visible results

  • Avoid to scatter you.

  • Stop these time consuming habits like reading your emails as soon as they arrive of watching your smartphone as soon as there is a notification. Tamagochi  is a toy, not a lifestyle.

  • Do things in their time. Each task, even minimum, must be completed before moving on the next one. This method allows you to improve your concentration and the satisfaction of having completed a task is very motivating.

  • Pause during the day and cultivate your patience. In a situation where you have to wait, take the time to relax instead of sighing and complaining. For example in a queue for a counter, use that : Wait = relax and breathe deeply. Concentrate on yourself in a positive way and on the present moment.

Communicate

  • Stress is often born from the fact that we don’t know what our interlocutors expect from us. We can’t read people’s minds, so don’t hesitate to ask clearly what people expect of you. Dare to ask questions and create a direct communication. Banish your ego and think that you aren’t absolutely right. You can also avoid sensitive topics.

  • Say « no ». If you can’t render a service someone asks you because you have no time or no resources or you don’t want to take additional responsibilities, then explain that to your interlocutor. Your interlocutors will understand the situation and you will find an arrangement. It’s better to say « no » from the start than to force yourself to keep your commitments. With this attitude, you will avoid being overwhelmed.

4th step – turn away or adapt and accept

 

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  • Avoid the trigger elements of stress. Limit your contact with people who stress you. Be aware of your environment and control that. For example, use an alternative road to avoid traffic jams. Turn off TV to avoid listening to information that makes you anxious. If you did the analysis of 20% of sources that bring you 80% your stress, you know the people that you must see the minimum or eliminate them from your contacts.

  • Adjust yourself by being willing to compromise. Be assertive by adapting your requirements and avoiding perfectionism.

  • Reframe conflicts by analyzing the problem in a positive way. Look at good things and find benefits of the situation. Focus on positive elements.

  • Accept the trigger of stress and admit that you can’t control everything.

  • Looking for opportunities to improve yourself. Concentrate on what this stressful situation can teach you. Follow the principle of this quote : « What doesn’t kill you , make you stronger » and ask yourself these questions : « How can I get better with this experience ? What did I learn ? ».

  • Forgive. Accept that others make mistakes (because you also make mistakes) and try to evacuate any feeling of anger. When you free yourself from all this negative energy, it’s easy to resume your projects.

In summary « The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another » as William James said.

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-Steph

Intention (Part 1)

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Starting and Swaraj

At the individual level Swaraj is vitally connected with the capacity for dispassionate self-assessment, ceaseless self-purification and growing self-reliance.… It is Swaraj when we learn to rule ourselves.

Mahatma Gandhi, Young India, June 28, 1928, p. 772

HARAJUKU THE MOMENT

The decision to become a complete human

I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.

Bene Gesserit “Litany Against Fear,” from Frank Herbert’s Dune

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For most of us, personal development books on our bedside table represent a big list of things to do, no advice that we should follow.

Several of the best known high-tech leaders of San Francisco asked to Tim Ferriss, at different times, a card with instructions numbered to lose abdominal fat. Each has clearly asked: “Tell me exactly what to do and I will.”

He gave to their necessary guidance to the tactic on a card of 3 x 5 inches (7 x 12cm), knowing in advance what would be the result. The success rate was impressive … 0%.

People are bad to follow advice. Even the most successful people in the world are terrible for that. There are 2 reasons:

1. Most people have insufficient reason for action. The pain is not enough painful. It’s a it’s good to have, rather than I must have. There is no “Harajuku Moment”.

2. There are no reminders. No consistent tracking = no coherent consciousness = no change in behavior. Consistent monitoring, even if you have no knowledge on fat loss or exercise, will often unbeatable council of world-class coaches.

But what is this very important “Harajuku moment”?

It is an epiphany that turns a good one to have to a I must to have. There is no point in starting before it happens. This applies to fat loss as well as gain strength, endurance as much as sex. No matter the number of numbered itmes or recipes provided, you will need a “Harajuku Moment” to fuel change.

Chad Fowler knows this.

Chad, CTO InfoEther Inc., spends much of his time to solve difficult problems for customers in the Ruby programming language. He is also co-organizer of RubyConf and RailsConf, annual conferences where Tim Ferriss met him. The second meeting was in Boulder, Colorado, where he used his experience of the Hindi language to teach Tim Ferriss primitive basics of Ruby.

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Chad is an incredible teacher, gifted with analogies, but Tim Ferriss was distracted in the session with something that Chad had mentioned in passing. He had recently lost more than 70 pounds (31kg) in less than 12 months.

chad fowler

It wasn’t the amount of weight that Tim Ferriss found fascinating. It was time. Chad had been obese for more than 10 years and the change seemed to come from nowhere. After landing back in San Francisco, Tim Ferriss sent him a question by e-mail:

What were the trigger points, the moments and ideas that led you to lose 70 pounds (31kg) ?

Tim Ferriss wanted to know what was the decisive moment, the conversation or the stuff that made him make the decision after 10 years.

His answer is in this chapter.

Even if you’re not interested in losing fat, the key information will help you lift 500 pounds (225kg), running 50 kilometers, gaining 50 pounds (22kg) of muscle or do anything else in this book.

But before talking about an oddity: calorie counting. This method didn’t exist when Chad lost weight and there are much better things to follow than calories. But … track something is better than track nothing at all.

If you’re overweight, very small, not flexible or very something negative, traking, even a mediocre variable, will help you develop the consciousness that leads to good behavior change.

This shows something encouraging: you don’t have to have everything right now. You just have to be very clear on some concepts.

Results follow.

Enter Chad Fowler.


-Steph