This Problem Is Blocking Your Success

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What’s up ? This is THE stephane ANDRE !!! I watched an Olivier Roland’s video and I learned some good stuff.

In the last Leonardo da Vinci’s biography written by Walter Isaacson (who is also the author of the Steve Jobs biography, 2011), we can see that he was an extremely curious man. This curiosity allowed him to explore several different areas, boost his creativity and make a huge contribution to art. But the downside is that he kept changing projects.

Because of this, Leonardo da Vinci left a mind-blowing number of unfinished works of art. There are several scientific fields where he could have advanced the humanity of 2 centuries, if he worked more and published his results.

Attitude

This show us that we all have different attitudes to things that interest us, to our projects. We can explore something because we want to know how it works or master it to improve our lifestyle.

Attitude is very important in life. For example when you do something you like, you don’t have the same attitude as for something you like moderately or not at all. The last project you did, did you give the best of yourself to the end or not ? The question is whether you’re aware of the mission you want to accomplish through the project.

Mission

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In a project, the mission, the goal is essential. There are many people around me who say they want to be successful. They say things like : «  Yes, I want to be successful, if I find success around the corner, I would not say no. It would be cool ». But that doesn’t happen like that. To succeed in a mission, it’s necessary to give the best of oneself. And it can take many years, so don’t be naive. With internet, there is a myth that makes everyone believe that in 2-3 years we can be a millionaire, that’s wrong.

When I created my blog, I had friends who also had their blog or YouTube channel, but they all stopped. We didn’t have the same mission and the same attitude when we started. You can see in the top left of my blog this sentence : « I’m building my legacy ». This is my mission.

It’s really good to be curious, but once you’ve found something that interests you, focus on it. Work on this passion in « Guerrilla » mode to develop it, because it will become your main source of income. When I say « Guerrilla », it means that you give the best of yourself. You want to know what skill you have to learn, you want to learn from the best players in the field, you do tests to innovate, etc.

With a definite mission, a « Guerrilla » attitude and patience, you’ll have the success you deserve in your project.

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Have The Chance That You Deserve

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What’s up ? This is THE stephane ANDRE !!! I watched an Olivier Roland’s video  and I learned some good stuff.

We’re lucky that we deserve. It’s true that there a bit of luck in everyone’s success. If I take my case, I recognize that I was lucky to be born in an industrialized country with internet and a good education. But I also created some of the luck that allows me to have my lifestyle today.

We aren’t all born under the same star or not with the same cards, that we can’t change. The thing we can do is to do with what we have to get something better. Having this state of mind is essential to having a better lifestyle. It’s important to be proactive. Whatever the bad luck or the handicap, you have the possibility to realize your dreams. It will be harder than other people but it’s possible with perseverance and patience.

Made with what you have

use what you got to have what you want

Here’s what you have to say to yourself : « My dream is that, maybe I’m not very lucky to succeed and maybe people will think I’m crazy, but I’m going to try to do something. I’m not going to do like the majority of people, I’m going to act, I’m going to do different and do interesting things ».

The truth is that the greatest craziness is to believe that by always doing the same thing, we will have different results. By always doing the same thing, we always have the same results. If you think you deserve better than that in your life, change your comfort, change your actions.

Seneca says something interesting in « Moral Letter to Lucilius ». He talks about people who commit suicide. He says it’s a paradox. It’s a paradox to give up life. What Seneca means is that it’s more constructive to try to change the actions that led to the results of being disgusted with life rather than leaving life.

It’s true that there are also elements that are outside our control or elements like psychology, depression, but whatever your despair, you can choose to change your actions to have another result. I will not lie to you, it will not be easy and it will not happen overnight. The main thing is that you have to try new things, experiment new things, get out of your comfort zone. It’s like this quote : « It’s when we walk that we risk failing ».

Go to another world

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The majority of people are in a frozen environment. They’ve been doing the same things for years, they’ve been thinking the same way for years and their lifestyle is stagnating. Get out of this environment to experiment other things and meet people who think differently but share the same values as you. It’s these types of people that will motivate you to do things you never thought you’d do.

When you dream of something, it always seems impossible to you. Publish a book, start a company, change job because it’s frustrating, all that, you feel like it’s outside of your world. It’s true that it’s outside of your world but you have the possibility of making it a reality. Look, imagine that you are on the beach and you have to go to the mountain but you don’t know the way. The majority of people will stay on the beach because it’s more comfortable and safer.

It’s true that it’s safer to stay on the beach but over time, it becomes boring. The best plan is to go towards the mountain and on the way, you will find the first step. At this point, you can ask how to go to the second stage. At the second stage, you can ask how to go to the third stage, etc. In this way, gradually, you reach the mountain learning a lot of new things.

To start a company, it’s the same plan. You find an idea. Then you write a 2-3 pages project that explains how this idea can become a company. Then you look for how to finance this company. Then you create a product or service and you contact prospects, etc. It’s obvious that when you start these projects, you don’t really know the stages. Do this plan now with the knowledge you have, this will allow you to demystify the process and find the first stage.

We must stop dwelling. You have goals, you have frustrations, you want to do things to improve your lifestyle, run the plan. Go to the first stage and get information for the next stage. There is never a perfect time to start (that’s an excuse to procrastinate). You have to start imperfectly and do it anyway. It’s the only way to get the chance you deserve.

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How To Reduce Stress (Part 2)

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I watched an Olivier Roland’s video  and I learned good stuff.

If you didn’t read Part 1, click here

3rd step – organize yourself and communicate

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Organize

Managing your schedule helps limit stress and to do that, here’s what you can do :

  • Prevent an additional 10 to 20 minutes on your travel times.

  • Make a list of priority tasks to do and not to do.

  • Identify bad habits, tasks to eliminate and tasks to delegate.

  • Automatize a maximum of tasks.

  • Focus on taks that immediately bring visible results

  • Avoid to scatter you.

  • Stop these time consuming habits like reading your emails as soon as they arrive of watching your smartphone as soon as there is a notification. Tamagochi  is a toy, not a lifestyle.

  • Do things in their time. Each task, even minimum, must be completed before moving on the next one. This method allows you to improve your concentration and the satisfaction of having completed a task is very motivating.

  • Pause during the day and cultivate your patience. In a situation where you have to wait, take the time to relax instead of sighing and complaining. For example in a queue for a counter, use that : Wait = relax and breathe deeply. Concentrate on yourself in a positive way and on the present moment.

Communicate

  • Stress is often born from the fact that we don’t know what our interlocutors expect from us. We can’t read people’s minds, so don’t hesitate to ask clearly what people expect of you. Dare to ask questions and create a direct communication. Banish your ego and think that you aren’t absolutely right. You can also avoid sensitive topics.

  • Say « no ». If you can’t render a service someone asks you because you have no time or no resources or you don’t want to take additional responsibilities, then explain that to your interlocutor. Your interlocutors will understand the situation and you will find an arrangement. It’s better to say « no » from the start than to force yourself to keep your commitments. With this attitude, you will avoid being overwhelmed.

4th step – turn away or adapt and accept

 

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accept

 

  • Avoid the trigger elements of stress. Limit your contact with people who stress you. Be aware of your environment and control that. For example, use an alternative road to avoid traffic jams. Turn off TV to avoid listening to information that makes you anxious. If you did the analysis of 20% of sources that bring you 80% your stress, you know the people that you must see the minimum or eliminate them from your contacts.

  • Adjust yourself by being willing to compromise. Be assertive by adapting your requirements and avoiding perfectionism.

  • Reframe conflicts by analyzing the problem in a positive way. Look at good things and find benefits of the situation. Focus on positive elements.

  • Accept the trigger of stress and admit that you can’t control everything.

  • Looking for opportunities to improve yourself. Concentrate on what this stressful situation can teach you. Follow the principle of this quote : « What doesn’t kill you , make you stronger » and ask yourself these questions : « How can I get better with this experience ? What did I learn ? ».

  • Forgive. Accept that others make mistakes (because you also make mistakes) and try to evacuate any feeling of anger. When you free yourself from all this negative energy, it’s easy to resume your projects.

In summary « The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another » as William James said.

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Stop To Be Shredded Everytime

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black shredded athlete

I watched a Jamcore DZ’s video  and I learned good stuff.

Spring is here and I see that everyone wants to be shredded to show off this summer. I think it’s interesting to explain the difference between be shredded or cutting phase and losing weight.

Be shredded or cutting phase comes from the bodybuilding’s field. After taking muscle mass, be shredded allows to show your muscles striated in detail.

People confuse be shredded or cutting phase and a loss of weight. When you do a good weight loss, you lose water and fat without losing muscle mass and bone mass. When you’re shredded or cutting phase, you lower your bodyfat to 5% to see your muscles in detail as a bodybuilder competing.

Please, women and girls, stop saying that you are shredded or cutting phase. Naturally you have more fat than men and that’s normal because it’s to feed the baby when you will be pregnant. Your body programmed for that and that’s normal. For a woman or a girl to be shredded, it’s necessary to take steroids like women who participate in bodybuilding competitions. A clean weight loss is excellent and sufficient for toning and having a beautiful body.

Let’s talk about weight loss. There are plenty of stupid draconian weight loss programs. These programs cause loss of muscle mass, loss of bone mass, slow down metabolism and create health problems. I wrote 2 articles about it, click here  and there for Part 1  and Part 2 .

Wait

body under construction

I agree with this point of view and I think it’s necessary to be patient before be shredded or cutting phase. Wait 5 years before doing your first cutting phase. Make a clean mass gain for 5 years. Jamcore DZ waited 7 years before to participate in his 1st competition. At the 2nd competition, he felt like he was flat net to his competitors. He waited 3 years before participate in his 3rd competition. 10 years to gain muscle clean with a healthy nutrition to have nice muscle mass when he’s shredded.

So wait at least 5 years to have a healty muscle mass gain before to be shredded or cutting phase. Maybe you find that long but see the reasons :

  • 1st reason : Learn and understand how your body works.

  • 2nd reason : Learn the art of patience. You’re going to have trouble but all the best things are hard to get. You will realize each summer with your friends who will show off but your friends are flat. They believe that they have muscle mass but in fact they’re thin and dry and you arrive and BOOOOM !

  • 3rd reason : After 5 years when you’re shredded, it will encourage you for the next cutting phase. You know that you have to rest your body for several years by gaining muscles in a healthy way to have a better body for the next time. I know that there are people who want to be shredded after 2 years but the results are poor : less experience and more muscle loss because there aren’t enough muscles that was built so a small muscle mass visible. Me, the first time I was shredded, I was disgusted, I felt flat because I had a small muscle mass visible.

    It’s depressing and most people when they’re in this situation, they think to take steroids to show off with pictures on social media. This is happening right now on social media.

  • 4th reason : The more you’re shredded, the more you will regress because you lose more and more muscles. When you’re shredded, you lose some of your muscles, this is the process. So if you do this every years or every 6 months, you lose each time a part of the muscles that you have built.

The most common question

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To start, people who tell you that you can do this all your life are liars. When you start training, you do something new to your body several times a week. It’s like a romantic relationship with a girl. It’s beautiful and after 6 months, she starts to piss you off, you start to piss her off and after you breakup. For muscle mass, it’s the same principle. At first you’ll build muscles and you’ll change your composition’s body, it’s normal.

After a while (2-3 years), your body starts to adapt and you stagnate. That’s when you’re looking for a training system that suits you, you focus on muscle isolation during an exercise, you improve your recovery and you evolve slowly. Gaining healthy muscle takes time and you have to accept it.

At the beginning of your training, you’ll lose fat and water and gain muscle at the same time for 2-3 years and then you’ll stagnate. Most of people who gain muscle get fat because they eat too much and don’t do cardio. Cardio all year is important to help control your weight. When I say doing cardio, it means doing cardio at a middle level, not cardio at a high level to be shredded. Doing cardio while you’re gaining muscle helps you progress because you keep a metabolism that works.

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Testo

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Aujourd’hui c’était abdo-dos-biceps. Je marchais vers l’installation pour faire des tractions quand une fille me dit : « Wow tes veines ! c’est la testo ? » (je connais la fille). J’étais surpris et je lui réponds « oui, mon corps produit de la testo ». Elle me répond que je suis le gars avec le plus de veines visibles dans le gym mais je ne suis pas le plus volumineux. Je lui explique que c’est parce que j’ai un pourcentage de graisse corporelle d’un athlète et si les autres faisaient pareil, ils auraient les même résultats.

veins veins

Il y a des gens qui veulent avoir du volume, moi, je veux être symétrique et athlétique toute l’année. Mais je lui pose cette question : « Tu pense que je prends des stéroïdes ? » et elle ne me répond pas, elle est un peu gênée. Je la regarde bien dans les yeux et je lui dit : « Alors, c’est ça ». Elle me dit que des gens lui ont raconté blah blah blah.

J’hallucine, il y a des gens qui pensent que je prends des stéroïdes ?!? Je fais 175cm (5’74’’), 78kg (171.9lbs) et 5 % de graisse corporelle avec l’étrier mais j’estime plutôt à 8 %. Je ne pensais pas que mon corps impressionnait déjà. Cela fait bizarre que des personnes pensent ça mais des bodybuilders m’avaient prévenus. Je fais partie des personnes qui sont naturelles mais tout le monde croient qu’ils prennent des stéroïdes parce que physiquement, nous sommes à une étape spéciale.

Le piège de la Matrix

Avec la condition physique que j’ai maintenant, je comprends la tentation de prendre des stéroïdes parce qu’on se compare à des pros. Nous avons le style de vie d’un bodybuilder (programme d’entraînement et alimentation). C’est une grave erreur car quand nous savons dans quel état est le corps pendant une compétition, c’est scandaleux de faire ça toute l’année, c’est trop dangereux. Mais les photos nous font rêver et nous voulons vivre ça tout de suite.

Je ne prendrais jamais de stéroïdes, j’étudie les conséquences de ces produits et à chaque fois je suis surpris pas la puissance des effets négatifs. Pour moi, les stéroïdes c’est comme de l’héroïne ! Mais c’est vrai que des fois, j’aimerais avoir des résultats plus rapidement, c’est pour cela que je comprends les personnes qui tombent dans le piège de la Matrix mais la patience est la clé. Tout le monde manque de patience et c’est pour cela qu’il y a autant d’échec.

Je regardais un vidéo de Gary Vaynerchuck et il expliquait qu’il y a avait des amis d’enfance qui lui disait qu’il avait de la chance. Gary leurs réponds que de 22 ans à 30 ans il travaillait 7/7 jours pendant que les autres allaient boire de l’alcool avec les filles, c’est de la chance ça ? Une autre vidéo de JamCore DZ avec Enzo Foukra. Enzo Foukra explique qu’il s’entraîne depuis 20 ans. Il a 40 ans maintenant et il n’a pas le physique de Ronnie Coleman mais il a un excellent physique.

enzo foukra

Les gens ne savent pas que j’ai commencé à faire du karaté à 6 ans et que depuis j’ai toujours une activité physique intense et ils ne le sauront jamais. Cela ne fait rien, la seule chose qui compte c’est que je sois meilleur que hier. Je les laisse parler et dans 10 ans ils me diront que j’ai de la chance alors que la vérité c’est d’être cohérent, patient, constant et avoir de la discipline.

FUCK EXCUSES

Et toi ? Tu as déjà été tenté ?

-Steph