Boost Your Charisma

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What’s up ? This is THE stephane ANDRE ! I watched an Olivier Roland’s video  and I learned some good stuff.

To increase my charisma, I discovered a completely counterintuitive trick. This trick is a state of mind. This is a trick that Seth Godin shares in his book « Tribes » . In this book Seth Godin explains the importance of internet. Internet isn’t just about doing business with customers/prospects, but it’s a real tool for building a tribe or community.

The principles for building a tribe or community with internet are to share quality content and to clearly explain your values to bring together people who share the same values as you. Seth Godin says something very interesting about charisma, he says that most people think that yow have to have charisma to get the idea when it’s the opposite. The simple fact of having the idea gives charisma. It’s deep right ?

In everyday life

 

everyday

 

I’m sure you’ve seen this situation :

  • There is a person who loses consciousness on the sidewalk Quickly a person must take responsibility for the idea of caring for the person who has lost consciousness

  • There is a car accident. Quickly a person must take responsibility for the idea of dealing with traffic to secure the area.

In situation where there is no designated leader, a person must take the initiative, without permission, to take responsibility for the idea of managing the situation.

As you can see, it does give charisma to this person and the others will naturally accept him/her as a leader and listen his/her orders, until the situation returns to normal.

The question, I’m asking you is : « In the project that is important to you, could you take responsibility for the idea of taking care of your tribe or community that shares the same values as you and to do evolve the project ? ». Tell me your answer in the comments section.

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-Steph

Find The Gym For Your Goals (Part2)

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I read a Nerd Fitness article  and I learned good stuff.

If you didn’t read the part 1, click here 

Type de gyms

different type gym

You noticed there are several categories of gyms. That’s why you have to take your time to think about a gym that fits your needs.

Fitness center franchise

In the best known franchises, you will have cheap membership. It’s cheap but you have few amenities, some type of trainings are forbidden, free weight section is limited and often the staff has no experience.

Health clubs/Sport clubs/YMCA

Clubs look like franchises but they have a better service. There is more amenities, towel service, child care, pool, tennis court. Membership can reach $100, some type of training can be prohibited and free weight’s section limited.

Note : Franchises and clubs can be convenient if you travel a lot because with their membership, you can train in different cities.

Locally owned gyms

These gyms have a better equipement, a free weight’s section bigger and a better quality staff than franchises and health clubs. Membership is around $25-50 and it’s real that amenites are less good than health clubs.

Weightlifting club/barbell club/crossfit

It’s a room with bumper plates, dumbbells, barbells and pullup bar. With the membership, you have a coach and classes, that’s why it’s expensive. These gyms are open at certain hours during the day. These gyms have their own workout program, you can’t do your own workout program.

College/university gyms

it’s cheap and you need to paid upfront in full.

You can have a discount « alumini » memberships if you go to the college or university that you attended. If you don’t live near of you old college/university, some gyms offer memberships to family members of alumini or staff, local « senior » memberships or event just local resident memberships. What is great with this type of gym is you can have acces to their full facilty (pool, racquet courts, classes, etc).

Test drive the gym

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The next step is to look for gyms in your city now that you know differtent types of gyms.

Do a test in gyms to see if the equipement meets your needs. Some gyms offer pass for 1-2 weeks. During the test phase, go train the same days that you plan to train after signing the contract.

Imagine that you find the perfect gym, you sign the contract and eveydays you train, it’s war. The gym is full of people and you can’t use equipement. This is a situation to avoid.

Here is what is important to see during the test phase :

  • Is there enough equipment for everyone or you have to fight to have a bench ?

  • Does the equipment work well ?

  • What is the gym’s atmosphere ?

  • Is it clean ?

  • If you go befoire school/work, is there enough shower available or you have to wait ?

You can read gym’s reviews on internet by searching with Google or DuckDuckGo. Attention, on internet people prefer to complain than to do compliments so be careful. For me the best thing to do is talk to gym members to know what is positive and negative.

Contracts

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A lot of people don’t want to have a membership gym because one of their friend had a bad experience to stop a gym’s membership. This for this reason it’s important to take your time to read the contract and understand clauses.

Here things to look at in a contract :

  • A membership termination clause because for exemple, you move or you lose you job. This is rare but sometimes you can stop a membership if you live near the gym. Usually there is a fee named «  early termination fee » (that’s what I have).

  • The possibility when you’re on vacation ou you have to work for several weeks in another city to freeze your membership.

  • If the gym goes bankrupt, what happens to members ?

  • Membership renewal is automatic ?

You know salespersons work with commission so if a sales person make you a promise, make sure that this promise is in writing. Taking the contract at home is the thing I advise you to read it quietly and understand clauses.

If you feel that the salesperson put pression on you or that you don’t feel comfortable for another reason, leave the gym.

Note : There are states that has specific laws. For exemple, you can cancel the contract only 2 days after signed it. It would be a shame if you signed this type of contract without being aware of this clause. This is why it’s important to take the contract at home to read it quietly.

Here different membership’s fees :

  • Activation fee

    You pay these fees when you’re a new member. You pay these fees once.

  • Monthly cost

    it’s a fee you pay every month

  • Maintenance fee

You pay these fees per year. Attention, some gyms have a special clause that says : « We don’t have this kind of fee now but later, it’s possible to add these fees without telling you ». Be sure to know this clause if it is in your contract.

When I enrolled in my gym, there was an offer for people who applied for registration on internet. Look at gym’s website to know offers but also ask always to salesperson if there are discounts.

In gyms, there is often a membership’s range of price. You need to negotiate, don’t hesitate. Don’t forget that the more you take the more expensive membership, the more the salesperson will have a larger commission. If the salesperson tell you : « No », it doesn’t matter, you tried to get the best price.

By negotiating, somethimes you can register in a gym for the first time without paying the activation fees. To do it, you need to talk to the person who has permission to do this. Sometimes they can call you 1-2 days after to offer you an exceptional offer.

You can also have a nice offer by paying an annual membership up front. Look at the price difference.

Also you can have offers with you health insurance. It’s always with a limited number of gym but look if you have this option.

Stay focus

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The difference between a workout at home and a workout in a gym is that in a workout in a gym, you can really make your potential evolve to the maximum.

For exemple, if you do a barbell’s workout, you will have always heavy weight plates to go to the next level. It’s the same thing for dumbbells. You need heavier, it’s here. No need to worry about buying new.

Of course, there are negative pointst to enroll a gym. You have to move there (bike, bus, car, etc), you to wait if you go during busy hours, the cost and do your workout around unkown people.

I repeat, you can train at home to be healthy or gain strength with a bodyweight workout program. You can buy a set of dumbbell, barbell, kettelbell or a sandbag. You can do sprints or walk (like my father) outside with any weather and it’s free.

For me the gym, it’s an important moment of my day. It’s the moment where I’m focus on myself and the society’s pressure no longer exists.

Share this article if you think it can help someone you know. Thank you.

-Steph

Find The Gym For Your Goals (Part 1)

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I read a Nerd Fitness article  and I learned good stuff.

The gym can become an important part in your life. For this reason is important to choose your gym well otherwise you will become bitter.

It’s not necessary to train in a gym to gain strength or to have a good physical condition. You can do a bodyweight workout program at home (bedroom, garage or basement).

But if you really want an athletic body, you need to have equipment like barbells or dumbbells. It’s possible that you don’t have place or resources to create your home gym (like me), so the best option is to have a gym membership.

Discover really what you want

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Don’t do the mistake to have a gym membership in the closest gym to your home. Think about your goals.

Make a list of things you need in a gym and make the difference between « must have » and « would be nice to haves ».

Equipment

I wrote an article in 2 parts about this topic (click here link ). Imagine you have a workout program based on barbell, you need to check this :

  • Olympic barbell

  • Power rack (or at least a squat rack)

  • Dumbells up to 45-68kg (100-150lbs) or heavier if you want to do a dumbell training over barbell

  • Pullup bar/Dip station

  • Flat bench with racks for the bench press

Classes

Gyms offer free classes for their members like kickboxing, dance fitness, stationary bike or yoga. This is helpful for beginners, don’t hesitate to try one.

Amenities

Some gyms offer good anemities like child care, a zone only for women ( my sister came one time in my gym and she said that men stared at her too much) or dry cleaning.

An environment to be focus

For me the gym has an important part in my day. When I train at home, I know I’ll be bothered by my rommates. I find it easier to concentrate when I’m at the gym with my headphones. When I’m at the gym it’s « my time » to me, I’m in my bubble. Everything about home, school, work doesn’t exist. The only thing is important is my workout.

Coach

Gyms have coaches available to help you improve your technique or workout program. From time to time it’s pratical.

Rules

A « must have » rule can be you can bring your childen at gym. I don’t have children but it looks cool for people who have children. Some gyms don’t allow to do deadlift and have vibram  so check if rules match with what you want to do.

A gym membership can be a long-term commitment so look at these points :

  • If you do a workout program based on dumbbells like me, be sure that dumbbells up to 45-68kg (100-150lbs) or heavier

  • If you think you’ll do the Olympic lift, look for bumper plates and a gym that lets you drop the weight.

  • If you think you’ll try kickboxing or yoga later, check that the gym has this type of classes.

Budget

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During my travels, I saw gym membership between $9.- and $365.- per month. In Europe, it’s on average EUR 50.- per month but it depends on the area where you live and the amenities offered.

It’s useless to take the most expensive price thinking that you’ll have everything you need in the gym (I already did this mistake). It’s for this reason I’m writing this article to help you to find the best gym at the best price according to your need.

Also think of the usual thing like the towel. Imagine you go to a gym that offer a towel’s service. You know it and you think it’s great, you don’t nee to bring your towel. One day, you go to train at the gym at lunch and the staff tell you that there is no more towels available. It’s annoying.

Apart from the equipement, there are services that are important to know if the gym offer them or not :

Events offer or trips with discounts. Imagine that the gym organizes a hiking trip and member pay only 20.-. I agree, it’s not an incredible discount but during the hiking trip you’ll able to meet people who work to improve their health like you.

A child care service during your workouts. It’s possible that you have to pay an extra of $20.- or $30.- per month. I don’t have children but it looks pratical.

Free classes including yoga that is great for relaxing muscles. I prefer Tai-Chi but there is no this class in gyms.

Location and hours

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Having a gym that is close to your house and your school/workplace is an interesting place.

By exemple, if you gym is close of your school/workplace, it’s cool. But the problem is that if you school/workplace is at a distance of 1 hour from you home, you’ll never train on weekends.

There is something I forgot to tell you in gym’s rules. There are gyms that close at 23h (11pm) and I know some gyms don’t allow their members to start their workout after 22:15 (10:15pm). If you work late in the night or during the night, it’s better to look for a gym open 24/7.

It’s important to choose a gym according to your willpower :

  • Imagine you want to train before you go to school/workplace. You do it because you want to train immediately to avoid not training all day or because when you wake up, you’re groggy and train give you energy for the whole day ?

  • Imagine you want to train after your school/workplace. You do it because you don’t have time to train during the day ? Be carefull because if you’re the type of person who is very tired after school/workplacle, you’ll find excuses to cancel your training. I meet everyday people like this.

An ideal location is to find a gym located between your home and your school/workplace. If you can do this, you’ll save time and money. I can’t do that but it’s really effective.

Note : It’s better to pay a little bit more for a gym that you use several times a week than pay less for a gym that you use from time to time. Don’t be fancy.

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P.S. To read the Part 2, click here .

-Steph

Be Quiet And Listen

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I want to share something with you, it’s because I have a friend who paid the price of something he did 5 years ago. Like you, I have friends who are going through bad time in their lives. This kind of thing has happened to me often and I haven’t made the right choice. When we have big problems, we don’t want to involve our friends in because everyone problems.

What make me felt super alone, you know that people will listen but they will not help you solve the problem for you, you are the only one who can solve the problem and sincerely you don’t expect other to help you solve the problem. But at the end of the day we are still human beings, we have emotions, feelings and we are sad.

Sometimes in this kind of situation, you feel the pressure to do something or you say to yourself: « No one cares about me so it’s useless for me to take care of me ». When you think like that, STOP, stop what you are doing and breathe deeply. Do right things that can improve your life, I know it’s easier said than done. But believe me, I have also been in these situations. You wonder how you can fix the problem as quickly as possible.

This is the best way to screw up your life. There is nothing wrong with doing the right things to improve your life ! I don’t care to know how long it will take to have it, I don’t care to know how the road is hard to have it because at the end of the day, I have no remorse, no regrets and I’ll be a stronger person when the problem will be resolved. That’s how you become a stronger person with taking this kind of decision.

There are people who don’t know this kind of situations, that they never fought for something, who had never made a decision that completely changes the life, that have not done things that are really annoying or did something that put them in an unstable position. God bless them, there is nothing wrong with that, good for them.

angel and evil do the right thing

There are people like me who have been through this type of situation and at a time on the path there are always two options. There is the « easy » way, risky, dangerous but you can do it, it’s possible and there are tons of things to win quickly. And the other, the « hard » way, the one where you must get up early in the morning, where you the obligation to do several things in the day. It’s boring, monotonous but it’s the real way to take because you grow up, you gaining more wisdom and you become a better person. Train yourself to stay positive and productive, especially do legal things.

Nobody know how the future will be, absolutely not and that’s really cool because everydays you create your future. It’s like a seed planted in fertile soil, you will have a beautiful plant. You plant a seed in a non-fertile soil, you have nothing, this plant wil be useless. It can help you a while but this is temporary and it can even take you away your freedom, your dignity, your self-esteem or your life.

I talked about this because I have lived it, I was in a situation where I had no one to call, I was full of friends, classmates, co-workers, people around me to go to party, buy alcohol but when a big problem happens, where are they ? Not on my side, you know what I mean. So you must invest in your life by planting seeds in fertile soil.

What I mean is that often you’ll have to make tough decisions and choose a path that is not glamorous, not parties several times in a week. But listen, it will make you someone solid, you will get what is truly yours. You’ll have a better esteem of yourself, you will not worry about anything because what you have, it’s deserved.

And that’s the beginning, it’s just creating your foundation, your genesis because you will grow and you will continue to have good things. Now in my life, I have many great opportunities but I have been failures, I’ll not lie to you, I’m not an angel. I was in dirty stories, but I learned. Sometimes someone has to tell you what you should not do and sometimes you have to learn from yourself in the hard way.

yourself do the rignt thing

It was difficult for me and it gave me more motivation to not be in this situation in the future, a situation where you can lose your freedom (prison), losing life (getting killed). This is why I have created my bubble, my fortress to protect everything I like and love, it’s a security bubble.

That is why I am a person who talks all the time to be positive, I motivates people, yes, of course I’m talking about training but there is more. Talking about fitness, it’s just the tip of the iceberg.

You know yourself that after the rain, there is the sun and life is the same.

There is nothing wrong in do the right thing for your life, it’s a simple sentence, but it’s so true. Everything is bad when you do a bad thing.

Maybe there’s someone out who is doing something now, that person is confused and doesn’t know what to do. Do right things for your life, if you need help, ask for help to someone, there is always someone who can give you a good advice and a good advice can help you to make the good action that will bring you to the solution.

do the right thing

I’ve seen people do things that put them in situations that we had never imagined and when it happens, it destroy your life and it’s too late, you spend your time regretting your act.

Everything I say comes from the heart and I know you feel it. So do everything possible to do right things to improve your life and your future generations.

– Steph