A Rare Habit To Have To Be Successful

curious question

I watched an Olivier Roland’s video  and I learned good stuff.

The most successful entrepreneurs are those who are the most curious. It has an extremely simple habit that the majority of the population doesn’t have. This habit is to ask questions but be careful, they’re use 2 way to ask questions :

  • By curiosity to try to understand the history, the motivation and the methods of a person or a company.

  • To question things that everyone agrees with. Are these things that everyone takes for granted true or not ?

It may be trivial, but how many people have met athletes, entrepreneurs or others great people who have just said : « Wow, that’s amazing what you did ». Then they could ask : « What motivated you to do that ? » or « Do you have a piece of advice that helped you on your journey ? » or « Do you make a stupid mistake that will stop you ? ».

When you ask questions about things that everyone takes for granted, you can sometimes find gold mines. What I means is that there are things that many people think is true when it’s wrong because they didn’t verify the information. So, this may be a gold mine that can make you rich at all levels.

It happens because we, human beings, have an imperfect representations of how reality works. That is, we’re like prehistoric explorers with rudimentary maps. The closer your mental map is to how the universe really works, the more likely you’re to do relevant actions, so to be more successful in your life in all areas of spiritual wealth (being happy, living long, create value, etc) and material wealth.

Ask to understand

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For example, Erico Rocha ( ooh, read this article ) is a Brazilian entrepreneur who has an incredible success in the information field in Brazil and he’s someone very curious. When you tell him one thing, he’ll understand that you have implicitly accepted that as a truth and he’ll question you on it.

You can do that too, and that opens doors that you never imagined.

Here is a concrete example. Many people think that handwork things are better than industrial things. This is a truth that most people have accepted without verified the information and this will influence their thoughts, decisions and words. Now let’s ask ourselves : « Is something handwork automatically better than an industrial thing ? ».

It’s true that there are some handwork things that are better than industrial things, but is a handwork book better than an industrial book ? We can ask the same question for a car, is a handwork car better than a industrial car ?

Analyze around you people who think that handwork things are automatically better than industrial things. Be careful, these people aren’t going tell you that explicitly. They’re just going to say things like : « Did you see ? I bought this wooden spoon, it’s pretty, huh ?!? It’s a handwork thing ». In this case, you can ask the question : « For you, are handwork things better than industrial things ? » With that you can analyze the way of thinking of this person on this subject.

With this habit, you’ll change your state of mind. This habit of asking such questions allows you to find those unconscious acceptances that influence our thoughts, actions and words. When you use that, it gives you a lot of advantage in life to be successful compared to people who don’t understand that.

Share this article if you think it can help someone you know. Thank you.

-Steph

Do The Inevitable

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As Agent Smith says in the movie « Matrix » : « Do you hear that Mr. Anderson ? That is the sound of inevitability ».

When a character from a movie ou comic says it, it’s impressive but it’s more than that.

Inevitability can manage our lives and become a self-fulfilling prophecy :

  • Person a

    Well, I will become fat and have blood pressure problems like my father. I will have a family and I will become like him. Not suprising that I fail everything.

  • Person b

    Well, I will break this circle. My children will be the first of the family to have healthy a healthy father. Children with parents who have healthy habits. This is what will happen.

  • Person A

    I will not succeed to lose weight like I did a lot of time. I can’t win against my genetics. Why continue ?

  • Person B

    I will be healthy. It’s a long journey and I will have difficult obstacles but it’s to me to take my success. I know that it will be long and I go forward step by step. I will go where I want to go.

If you look like Person a and A, it’s the moment to take the first steps to become like Person b and B.

Inevitability

agent smith matrix inevitability

I remember in what state I was when I read for the first time « 4 hours workweek of Tim Ferriss.

I ask to myself for several weeks if it was possible to live this. I was doing a lot of research on internet to find evidence. After all this evidence, I said to myself : « If people can do it, I can do it ». I don’t know how but I will test the indications of the book.

After creating several blogs and websites, I created my blog THEstephaneANDRE.

After few months, I watched a Gary Vaynerchuk’s video  that proposed rather than to create content, document ma days about my training and my blog. Like a reality show. This concept make me change my mindset to reach my goals. I have more success and I start to have the mindset « positive inevitability ».

Relation with yourself

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Paolo Coelho said in this book « The Alchemist » : « When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it ».

You will tell me that you know this kind of story and I need a vision board, the book « The Secret » and wait that others people help me.

Ok,ok, remove the vision board and the book and ask yourself this question :

Are you the kind of person who look bad things go bad or wait that bad things go bad to say : « I told you ! ». Or you’re the kind of person who assume that things are going well and take step to make them better ?

Whatever you believe, it’s true. We know that pessimitic people always seem to have bad luck and optimistic people always seem to have good luck.

You work for the inevitability you want

We know what we want and we know we need to work hard to have it, so we do it. While other wait for luck to come to them, we create our own chance.

Winston Churchill say : « Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm ».

Each fail is an element that can slow us down to this inevitable success. Like scientists have wrong hypotheses, each fail is a chance to get closer to the goal. No reason to give up.

We expect to win. We hope to succeed. Break obstacles to prove that this possibility is correct. We have a responiblity to our inevitability.

Prove it to yourself

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I just understood that « expect to win » or « feel more positive about yourself » is the half of the equation.

Wait that good luck or bad luck come to me is the same result : nothing !

As say Andy in the movie « The Shawshank Redemption » : « Hope is nothing without action ».

In the book « Unbroken », Louis Zamperini endured incredible obstacles and he never gave up hope. He always did what he could to prove that he was fighting nonstop for a good reason.

The best way to prove to yourself that your success is inevitable, it’s to do small victories :

  • You want a better health ?

    Proves to yourself that you can change by walking for 5 minutes during 30 days nonstop.

  • You want have a company ?

    Earn 1$ or help a person. Then hustle and scale.

  • You want run a marathon ?

    Run for 1 minutes. Then, find a way to run more than the day before.

Identify the version of yourself at the level 50 and go forward step by step in this direction.

Make a change and it doesn’t matter if it’s small. By adding all these changes and each small victories, this future become more and more concrete.

Expect the inevitable

It doesn’t matter if you try to lose weight, run a marathon or gain muscle, stop to wait things go bad and start to expect things go good.

You know what you need to do and everydays you do a little step to be closer to your goal.

You deserve it, you deserve to be happy, you deserve to be healthy.

Each day is a chance to be closer to your success or a chance to simply delay your success.

Did you have to prove a win to yourself before you started to believe ?

-Steph

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Lost In Getting Healthy

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I read a Nerd Fitness article  and there is good stuff.

You already heard this : « Life, isn’t a sprint, it’s a marathon ». Do you think is right ? Me, I think life is a special labyrinth.

Life, a labyrinth

maze

A blog talk about this, click this article « Life is a Maze, not a Marathon » . This concept can be use to be healthy.

In the game of life, we must find a way to be have a better life and to find a way to use all our potential.

When we try to change a lot of things, it’s hard to adapt it all. Change take time and think about a marathon reassurring us.

But, a marathon means with each step, we go forward. We will finish the marathon with this process, it’s certain.

In life and in the quest to have a better lifestyle, there is a lot of unexpected events. Intead to think your journey is like a marathon where you know all the difficulties in advance, think life is a labyrinth that change all the time.

If your quest to have a better lifestyle was like a marathon, it would be like that :

  • I tried to lose weight and I failed. I’m a loser and I will never reach my goals.

  • I can’t eat healthy foods. Something is wrong with me

  • I tried a training one time and I didn’t like it. Training isn’t for me.

  • I applied for this job I wanted and I didn’t have it. I’m condemned to have a miserable life.

Instead of this, you’re in a labyrinth with your goals in center. You will find deadlocks and this doesn’t means you’re an incompetent person. They’re simply paths that don’t work.

  • I tried to lose weights and I failed – I will try again with a new tactic. I will do it again with a different way. The last time, I tried to count calories. This time, I will only focus to eat a better foods.

  • I tried a training one time and I didn’t like it – I will do a different type of training that seems to please me.

  • I applied for this job I wanted and I didn’t have it – Well, I need to change my tactic and stand out differently for the next job.

Fight your stubbornness

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I thank video games to push us to make challenges and we don’t have any problems to dedicate thousands of hours to push « continue » to win.

However, this stubbornness and this devotion can be a blessing,but they can be a curse about be healthy.

Sometimes you will be guide to a bad path. When you continue in a deadlock you waste your time and you get away from your goals.

Often our obstinacy force us to lose our path because we have already started a wrong path. Let’s see :

  • We force ourselves to count our calories and to run more often when this don’t give us results. And we give up quickly this strategy every time. Change the strategy with a strenght training and eat only clean foods.

  • We stay in a deadlock with the job because we got our degree and we think we should do. This is the « good enough » syndrome and this is very very dangerous. Change it, we’re better than this.

  • We stay in a unhealty relationship because we’re together so long and we accepted to have a miserable relationship. We need to realize we deserve to be happy and we need to take care of ourselves.

Sometmes take a new direction is the better thing than you can do. Not because you give up what you do, but instead you give up a bad thing and this allow you to focus all your efforts to the good path.

Lost in the labyrinth

lost labyrinth

In labyrinths, there is always a moment where you must choose between three paths and you don’t know which one choose.

In life, there are times where you don’t know which paths choose and it’s stressing.

The worst thing you can do is to sit and complain because you don’t know what to do. Information can help you to choose. Educate yourself to choose the good direction.

« May be I must do this training or this type of training or this style of training ? »

« May be I must do this diet or this nutritional plan or this one ? »

Instead of remaining paralyzed, here how to do :

  • Do research to determine which path is better than others. Each path have its own characteristics and there certain that you would like to avoid.

  • Choose a path for a reason. With a litte research, you see which path you like most. Whatever the reason, choose a path and start as soon as possible.

  • Give yourself a chance to have a little result to test a path. When you’re lost, you leave mark on walls to leaves traces to don’t do the same mistake. If the path don’t work, you need to know. Test for 2 weeks a training and look if you have results. Test for 2 weeks a diet and look if you have results. If this don’t work, do again this process with a different training and a different type of diet.

You can’t save the world and you can’t finish the labyrinth while sitting. Do research and take a logical decision can help the processus but sometimes you have to act.

  • The life is a labyrinth very very difficult to solve. People who say they understood everything in life are liars.

  • When you have several choices, educate yourself the more you can and choose a path.

  • When you find a deadlock, mark it in your list and try a different path.

  • Courage and determination are important to have victory. With enough perseverance to test different paths to find the good path, you continue and find your goals in the center of the labyrinth.

Start. Don’t feel guilty when you’re in a deadlock, try new paths.

You will find the end, my friend.

-Steph